When lesbians and gay men and young unmarried people support same-sex marriage, what exactly are they supporting? An image of marriage? An illusion about marriage? A belief that it has something important to offer them in a distant future?
The unconscious decision to lean in was the best decision I ever made. It has not produced a husband and children, but it has produced a career that will facilitate a great family life -- if and when that opportunity and its accompanying decisions come along.