I could not save my sister any more than I can save you -- only you can do it for yourself, with or without the help of rehab, therapy, medication or a higher power. But I can be on your team on the road to recovery. It doesn't matter how many times you've tried before. Do it again. Do it for yourself.
All too often loved ones of people with Alzheimer's are in denial. Hence they spend their time trying to get the person to 'act normal.' Trying to get them to remember and do things they will never be able to remember or do. This only leads to anger and frustration for the visitor and often for the person with Alzheimer's as well.
Alexandru was a close relative of Ed -- my beloved Romanian soulmate of 30 years. Alexandru was visiting Ed from out of town. One evening they had a long talk about a wide range of topics -- most of which concerned Alexandru's professional issues. The next day Ed had no memory of the visit, let alone what they had discussed.