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Just Who Was This Romanian, Edward Theodoru, Any Way?

Marie Marley | Posted 11.30.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Ed came here from Romania in his mid-50s as a penniless political refugee fleeing the brutal communist regime. All they would let him take out of the country was $100, one suitcase and the clothes on his back.

Drama as a Distraction

Tracy Crossley | Posted 11.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Tracy Crossley

If we really want to stop the drama pattern and get off the triangle, we should take some time to be alone and really, deal with our feelings and the anxiety they provoke. Shining the light of awareness inside of our emotions can bring us far more peace than being engaged in drama.

The Science Of Trusting: How Can You Get Someone To Trust You?

Wray Herbert | Posted 10.30.2013 | TED Weekends
Wray Herbert

2013-01-18-TEDplayvideo.jpgWhile some people will never offer or accept amends, it appears that others are able with time to forgive. But why is that? Is there a fundamental psychological difference between those who accept reparations readily -- or even seek them out -- and those who do not?

Embrace the Suck!

Anthony Meindl | Posted 10.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Anthony Meindl

What if this week, you wrote down five things that don't make you fully alive? Examine why they are at play in your life. What could you do to make changes to eliminate them?

Rising and Living

Stacey Morris | Posted 09.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Stacey Morris

Denial was a big part of my life back in the days when I weighed in excess of 300 pounds. And then life pulled the rug out from underneath my carefully self-constructed comfort zone.

Skull and Crossbones: Projecting Onto Folks With HIV/AIDS

David Bedrick | Posted 09.07.2013 | Gay Voices
David Bedrick

People get sick but resist their own sense of frailty; people witness another's death but deny their own mortality; people age but fight against every visible reminder. As a result, they are compelled to project death and dying onto someone else, and people with HIV become prime targets.

10 Critical Tips for Alzheimer's Caregivers

Marie Marley | Posted 07.23.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Being an Alzheimer's caregiver is hard work that requires a lot of knowledge and many skills for getting along and for connecting with the person. Here are some tips to help you out on your caregiving journey.

Exercise or Denial? You Choose

Dr. Gregory Jantz, Ph.D. | Posted 07.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Gregory Jantz, Ph.D.

The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) just came out with a new report. While the CDC isn't usually known as a harbinger of uplifting news, I have to admit a certain amount of deflation upon hearing their findings that 80 percent of all Americans don't get enough exercise.

Effective Communication to Effectively Persuade

Judith E. Glaser | Posted 06.25.2013 | Business
Judith E. Glaser

Many of us act as though we all see the same reality, yet the truth is we don't. Human beings have cognitive biases or blind spots.

5 Things Alzheimer's Caregivers Should Never Do

Marie Marley | Posted 06.02.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Let's face it. Caring for a person with Alzheimer's is hard work. You may have to deal with personality changes and difficult behaviors. What I want to achieve in this article is to offer some ideas about five things Alzheimer's caregivers should never do.

8 Ways to Tell if You Are Still in a Relationship With Your Deceased Loved One

Carol W. Berman, M.D. | Posted 05.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Carol W. Berman, M.D.

When you lose your loved one, you must break apart and individuate again. That process can be extremely difficult if the bonding has been strong and enduring.

How I Accidentally Wrote a Book on Alzheimer's Caregiving

Marie Marley | Posted 04.27.2013 | Fifty
Marie Marley

I wrote Come Back Early Today: A Memoir of Love, Alzheimer's and Joy as a love story. It's about the powerful 30-year relationship I had with Edward Theodoru, a delightfully colorful, wickedly eccentric Romanian gentleman and scholar.

Denial in Addicted Family Systems

Dr. Tian Dayton | Posted 04.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Tian Dayton

When a family is steeped in denial, the person who is trying to say that "the emperor has no clothes on" is generally viewed negatively by those who are not willing to see what's really going on.

8 Ways to Spot Your Denial About Dementia

Carol W. Berman, M.D. | Posted 04.03.2013 | Healthy Living
Carol W. Berman, M.D.

At first, denial can be a healthy defense against admitting that your loved one has dementia. Denial helps you block the more painful aspects of reality. However, if denial continues too long, then it can be life-threatening to you and your loved one.

RG3 and 'The Big D'

Dr. Gregory Jantz, Ph.D. | Posted 03.12.2013 | Sports
Dr. Gregory Jantz, Ph.D.

RG3 wasn't taken out by a rabid, rushing Seattle defense. RG3 was taken out by a different kind of "D," one I see in my counseling practice all the time.

Why Are We Surprised By The Newtown Murders?

Catharine Stimpson | Posted 02.24.2013 | Religion
Catharine Stimpson

Shock, sorrow, surprise. Since the Newtown murders on Friday, Dec. 15, this trinity of responses has reverberated in the media and public and private exchanges among observers to the slaughter. But how can any observer be surprised?

Hearing Loss and Denial

Ruth Neubauer | Posted 02.04.2013 | Fifty
Ruth Neubauer

I've never been vain. I haven't "done anything" to my face or neck. I'm not happy about it, but I see the changes. That's really all I need to say about it. But a hearing aid? Are you kidding me?

Why Your Heart Is Not Always 'Deceitful Above All Else'

The Good Women Project | Posted 10.03.2012 | Religion
The Good Women Project

This idea is fed by the commonly held and taught mantra that Christians often repeat. "Your emotions will lie to you!" we warn one another. And with these two ideas, we retreat to one of the most deadly places we can: denial.

Make Peace With Alzheimer's and Learn to Love Again

Marie Marley | Posted 08.27.2012 | Fifty
Marie Marley

It's one thing to finally overcome denial and realize someone close to you has Alzheimer's. It's a completely different thing to accept it.

Dottie Sandusky: Why Didn't You Know?

Felice Shapiro | Posted 08.26.2012 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

What causes denial and why do we choose not to face reality?

Alzheimer's and the Devil Called Denial

Marie Marley | Posted 08.20.2012 | Fifty
Marie Marley

Oftentimes with Alzheimer's there is a 'defining incident,' something so bizarre that not even the spouse, child or other loved one can deny it or explain it away.

Redefining the 5 Stages of Grief

Claire Bidwell Smith | Posted 07.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Claire Bidwell Smith

Only you know what path you need to take toward healing, and whether you accomplish this using every one of the five stages, shunning books about grief or never missing a session of your bereavement group, the key will consistently be to listen to yourself.

'Not My Kid': When Parents are in Denial

Linda Durnell | Posted 06.30.2012 | Parents
Linda Durnell

Families struggling with addictions are part of our community. We should strive to help, support and understand that which threatens any and all of our families.

Why Does the Family Have Such Difficulty Accepting Their Loved One's Addiction Issues?

Carole Bennett, MA | Posted 06.19.2012 | Healthy Living
Carole Bennett, MA

The most irresponsible families have children that are not caught up in addiction, and just the opposite is also true. This is a worldwide epidemic, and sadly everyone might be a member of this club.

Why I Married My Lying Ex

Debbi Dickinson | Posted 06.14.2012 | Divorce
Debbi Dickinson

By the time an engagement is announced, most women feel that they are at a point of no return and continue with their wedding plans even if they have doubts about their soon-to-be husband.