Love asks more of us than to simply feel a strong attraction to another person. It asks (or demands) that we put our own desires and preferences aside and replace them with a desire to serve the desires of our partner, not always, but probably more often than most of us would want to.
If it was easy to keep people erotically charged by each other after they enter a long-term relationship, sex experts would be out of business. The fact is, that after the first few years of marriage or any relationship arrangement where people spend a lot of time together, interest can wane.
What is wrong about being hungry for more love, for more sex, for better lives for our children and families, for financial stability, for space to play? What is wrong with wanting to honor ourselves and feel honored by those around us?
Transforming your life involves going beyond the way you live, co-creating a better life for yourself, and changing the way you live. You do this by using your thoughts, visualization, words, faith, actions, or a combination of them.
There is always a brick wall underneath your plaster. There is always the presence of everything you want, covered by the familiar. It's waiting for you. It's been there all along. There's an astonishment beneath your confusion and habitual way of thinking.
Why, in the face of everyday temptation, do some individuals fail miserably while others coast by unscathed? Psychological scientists have been puzzling over this problem for years, but the answer remains elusive.
Practice this micro-meditation as many times as you wish, and just watch as your reservoir of love deepens and widens, day after day. The chances are great that it will, and that your life will become richer and more enjoyable, and you'll start meeting new people who also love you for who you are.
Since Elizabeth Bennett first began to warm to Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice after getting a look at his country estate at Pemberley, many a literary heroine's feelings for a man have been influenced by a setting that suggests wealth, power and good taste.
You can barely make out the flicker of candlelight from the shadows around the corner and you wondering if you should go and investigate (a seance?) when you hear the soft strains of melodic sex oozing from the record player. Sade. Your spoon stops in mid air. Oh no.
When you start with the awareness that longing and discontent in your life are actually a tool to assist you in getting clear on what you would love, then you are in the driver's seat. It's an easy step to discover what dream is trying to emerge by means of you and the life you are living.
Some men want sex all the time; some don't. Some women want sex all the time; some don't. And there are myriad reasons why each gender may not be interested, and many reasons this desire may be fluid over time.