I know it's hard to hear this, but I'll say it anyway: The world does not owe you love, affection, intimacy, or a perfect partner. This is Earth, not a fine dining establishment, and you cannot just order up a dish and then be all bent out of shape when it doesn't just show up as you sit there, starving. We're all brown bagging it.
We need to relearn what helping really means, and what we actually need and want from each other, and for ourselves -- the presence and love that we truly crave. Simultaneously, we need to be able to recognize and voice our real longing -- to be known deeply, really listened to, and not fixed. This experience, at its core, is love.