Seeking other-centered conversation frees us to love others. If I am intent on truly knowing the other person, I am not worried about their reception of me. Self-forgetfulness gives me the courage to persevere even when I feel out of place; even if it feels awkward, it's an offering of love. And love can never be a waste.
The print media's comfort with perpetuating the false, mutually exclusive dichotomy of LGBT and Christian is distinctly not journalism. Making choices that sell newspapers, but at the cost of human dignity, are not journalistic choices. It is the disgusting devaluation of human beings for the price of a paper.
The first computers were free-standing machines. Later, we learned how to hook them up and the result was an enormous increase in computing power. A parallel shift in our notion of selfhood is called for. The current default self, subscribed to by most people most of the time, is a stand-alone model. The new default self, to be posited in this essay, is more like a computer network.