It's o.k. to be sad, even very, very sad. Sadness, like anger, is a very fine emotion. But, like anger, not all of us are comfortable feeling it or being in the immediate vicinity of someone else who is experiencing it.
After I let go of my expectations and repress my frustration, I start enjoying the adventure. Isolation is not easily obtainable with the constant flow of information of the modern world. I read, uninterrupted by the phone, the swish of incoming emails, and the ring of messages on my smartphone.
Today, find peace with your discomfort. Embrace the stickiness. Ask for its lessons and guidance. Trust that your uneasiness is the vehicle to catapult you to places you've never been before. Use discomfort to your advantage in creating a life you dream of.
We can wake ourselves up by increasing our oxygen level by breathing deeply. Or conversely, we can put ourselves to sleep with a kind of meditation of shallow breathing, and repeating silently the words to the rhythmic "in" and "out" like a mantra.
Personal trainers have a mantra: Change creates change. So, regardless of our personal histories, each time we choose to change a behavior, it creates an opening within us to make other changes. To grow and expand in this way is the essence of living in discovery.
Here are some examples of mindfulness affirmations used when dealing with the discomfort of anxiety or worry. Try to recite these to yourself when you're walking, exercising, driving your car, or if you are so inclined, when you meditate. They really help.
No matter what the etiology, the goal is to recognize the problem, learn from it, and extricate oneself as soon as possible to avoid loss of time and energy. If allowed to persist, the condition can result in inertia and hopelessness.
It makes babies howl inconsolably on flights and sometimes during takeoff or landing I have the urge on the plane to just let myself collapse and do the same. That acute pain of ear pressure doesn't discriminate.
Recently a client asked me how to tell the difference between the natural anxiety a person has when they're moving forward into something new and the gut instinct that something is truly wrong for them.
In October of last year, I was no longer able to deny a long-developing internal shift, and promptly left my rather high-powered career to figure out what my next passion was. Walking out of the office that day with no real plan, I'd never been more scared. Now, I've never been more liberated.
One wonderful thing about staying in the discomfort zone is the chance to explore who we think we are. Instead of running on autopilot, being uncomfortable in a new situation allows us to question self-imposed beliefs and limits.