It would be great to go cold turkey, but the reality is most of us are going to continue grabbing for our devices. But at least we can be somewhat intentional. Think of these like a nicotine patch. You're not giving up your drug. You're weaning yourself off it with a different delivery system.
If we really want to stop the drama pattern and get off the triangle, we should take some time to be alone and really, deal with our feelings and the anxiety they provoke. Shining the light of awareness inside of our emotions can bring us far more peace than being engaged in drama.
Eating is only one of a thousand things to do when you're bored. If you're not hungry, you can choose to redirect your attention by making a conscious decision to focus on an activity other than eating (or thinking about eating).
We had forgotten that there isn't anything more important than taking time to restore our relationship, to reawaken and indulge our enjoyment of sensual pleasure, and to retreat into the sweet environment that supports the growth of our love and ourselves.
A week and a half ago, I told Briar we could go to get her hair trimmed. I had thought that we'd go on that first Saturday morning, but an unexpected guest, a work commitment and a sick sister kept cutting in and preventing the outing. I wanted the time alone with her. What happened?
It is important for us to realize what too much multitasking can do to our brains. Some interesting brain research from Your Brain at Work by David Rock tells us that to focus more effectively, we must retrain our mind for uninterrupted concentration.
I'm torn: I want to keep using a computer in class because I'm convinced it makes me more productive, but I don't want classmates sitting behind me to get distracted (nor do I particularly want them looking over my shoulder).
We can set timers and hide our email programs in an attempt to beat back the hordes. Or we can fill our lives with so many wonderful things that there's just not a whole lot of room left for distractions.