Couples consistently try to skip straight to the paperwork. We do our best to ignore the complex emotions swirling around our split in favor of just "filing divorce papers." The problem here is divorce, like marriage, is not about the paperwork, it's about a significant life transition.
It is my firm belief that times are changing in the world of divorces and I do hope the changes will go faster than they have over the past 25 years, because trust me, in most cases it is no longer necessary for people to live under unnecessary and uncertain circumstances against expensive costs during their divorce procedures.
A common cliché is "you have to be happy with yourself before you are going to be happy with someone else." Yes, that is true, but what happens when two people were happy, got married and then some life change caused one of the people to be unhappy?
We all know there is no turning back. We are not going to remarry each other. We want our daughter to know that we will always love each other, and despite our fractured frame, we are still a family -- and a loving one capable of joy.
If you've recently gone through a divorce and you're thinking about how to get back into the dating scene, you need to prepare yourself mentally. Before you plunge in head first looking for your next major relationship, do take some time for yourself.
Choosing to divorce is a decision not to be taken lightly. It's a life-changing choice that will affect you for many years to come -- especially if you have children. There are certain things to consider that may help you determine the future of your relationship and whether divorce is the right option for you.
Catching your spouse cheating can be extremely heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time. While it's easy to be paralyzed by all of the emotions that come with this discovery, this is a crucial time to make some important decisions.
Marry someone you like. Not just someone you love. Like is actually more important and much more powerful than love. Like is what makes a relationship withstand the test of time. Do you like being with the person, just hanging out doing nothing?
Last weekend, I attended a fundraiser. There was lots of talk of safaris and visiting the Galapagos. A gentleman offered me a glass of bubbly. I spotted a hefty gold band on his left hand. (Married. We single women notice.) So as we sipped, I queried him about his recent travel adventures with his wife.
Your divorce isn't a competition to see who can get more, move on to a new romance faster, or get the most love from the kids.
Money after divorce can be a nightmare. Even when you are hurt and grieving you have to continue the painful negotiations and discussions about money. If you've got kids, you never escape the money matters meeting, but now you have to do it under duress and potentially adverse interests.
The fact that you are even reading this post should be evidence enough for you that your relationship is heading down an unhealthy path. But since coming to that realization can be scary on your own, allow me help ease you into accepting your potential breakup.
Ironically, both spouses often feel like they are at a disadvantage. The spouse who is driving the divorce often feels like s/he is being held hostage as the courts crawl along and the spouse who wants the marriage to continue employs various stalling tactics.
I know, I know. You've been thinking about asking your husband for a divorce for nearly a year. Really even longer than that. You've considered every angle. Explored every other alternative. But you're still not ready.
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