Dating in our teens and 20s was challenging. Dating in our middle adult years, with significant exes, children, pets, mortgages, careers and a boatload of emotional, physical and perhaps even financial baggage, may seem impossible.
Another attorney in the mix might just seem like an added layer of bureaucracy to you, but this attorney can be the key to your case. He or she will either report directly to the judge with a recommendation about how to rule or will be able to present witnesses and question yours at trial.
You stop being the person who something was done to. You start creating a life you love, piece by piece, and it's authentic and genuine and fortified with the strength of your experience and sheer will to transcend bitterness and disappointment -- to step into the world fully.
While no divorce is without challenges, getting through it shows your child how to work through hard times to achieve a brighter future.
I am a divorce lawyer, a divorce survivor, and once upon a time, I was a child of divorce. The divorce of my parents was a long time ago; I was seven to be exact, the third child of four. I remember the before, and I remember the after.
I share my year of adaptation, struggle, triumph, grief and joy -- yes joy -- to imbue you with hope as you ponder the abyss following the end of your relationship. A lot can happen in one year, and some of it is really good.
Not everything I do is because of "the divorce" or because I don't like you. Please try to remember what you felt like when you were my age. No matter how good a parent you are, I'm probably going to try to pull away or even rebel in small or big ways.
Divorce doesn't mean you are a failure. What it means is that you failed at one thing. Everyone fails at something, and most of us have had a bunch of failures. So what?
Do you want to make your ex squirm? Always and I mean, always do the right thing by him or her.
I believe divorce is an opportunity for a new life. I divorced at age 39 and decided I needed some fresh experiences. I was open to taking risks. However, this resulted in some mistakes. Here are a few of my misadventures.
It was clear to me I needed some kind of plan but here was a situation where one of the largest stakeholders in my business (aka my new family) was someone I had never interviewed, let alone approved.
Being vulnerable means putting yourself out there and taking a risk. Is that easy to do? Hell no. So why do it? Because there are gifts that come from the courage it takes to expose yourself, both in a relationship and just in life, in general.
I came to the courthouse happy and hopeful, but I found my heart beating harder as the time ticked on.
One of the first times I saw him after our separation, he was in a new pair of jeans and a new shirt. I don't know why this bothered me, you guys. I can't even explain how irrationally upset I was by this. I remember thinking, "Did he buy this for a date?"
Goody goody gumdrops! I'm so glad your super awesome friend met her right guy on JDate. I'm not saying it's impossible, but many of us single or divorced mothers have or are trying online dating. We're moms. We don't have time to primp up and head to the bar. But it's really difficult.
The most heroic gift you can give your children is taking every opportunity possible to speak positively about your co-parent. Divorce in itself will not likely damage your children. However, how you choose to get divorced and behave after your divorce will make the difference.