I know a newly separated guy who when first married (several years ago) moved to Chicago for his wife, whose entire family is here. He isn't from here.
Traditions create the magic of holidays. They keep us grounded. Change, on the other hand, often knocks us off our feet. So how do you cope?
The lyrics of "Let It Go" are empowering and positive. They speak to making tough changes and coming out whole. "Let It Go" is an anthem for anyone who's seen struggles and survived. The lyrics resonate while seemingly bringing out the Beyoncé in all of us.
The holidays, for all that we look forward to them, can also bring out stress, tension and emotional tests. And when we add divorce into the mix, things can get even more challenging.
One cheating husband, divorce, pain, litigation, single parenthood, multiple nights of tears and two small children later, I have learned something that I didn't know pre-marriage. Love that is healing can come in multiple packages, more precisely, four.
What is particularly bothersome about it is that the children grow up seeing this behavior, so what chance will they ever have of NOT acting the same way -- with the same divorce anger -- in the event that they get divorced, or even just in general?
This may be the millionth time for you, but it's not for your client. This isn't just another divorce. This is her divorce. So if you can't be sympathetic and supportive while you charge her however many hundreds of dollars an hour to represent her, then it's time for you to find another job.
People love juicy gossip, so you will be quizzed by by folks who have no business asking, and not the least need to know about your divorce. You have a right to privacy, and a responsibility to protect your privacy (and reputation).
You are better off now than you were in your destructive marriage. The truly bad part -- the fighting or cheating or abuse or lying -- is behind you. You are on your way to a better life, whereas when you were still together, you were not.
My personal life is healthy and challenging. I am learning to embrace quality over quantity in all of my relationships. I recycle (most of the time). I will forever believe that Michael Keaton is the best Batman. My 25th birthday is in a few weeks. I am divorced.
Never let anyone tell you God doesn't have a sense of humor. Or that pride doesn't go before a fall.
Start the new year in a new cycle of healthy communication with your ex. You'll both be happier and your kids might even thank you for it.
I cannot thank Mr. Peters enough for putting so much effort into writing such an outstanding book and highly recommend that every professional involved in dispute and/or conflict resolution and everyone involved in a dispute and/or conflict take the time to read this book.
Should I wish my ex a happy birthday? is a question I received on my site from a guy who has been separated for about a year. I thought the best way to answer it would be to list all the pros and cons of wishing your ex a happy birthday.
I have had the privilege and pleasure of representing some amazing people over the last 21 years who just could not make it work. Some really hardworking, big-hearted, intelligent, successful and beautiful people (inside and out) have been my clients.
So what can parents do in a practical way to not diminish each other during separation? They can start by remembering they are their child's first teacher. Everybody wins when the children's needs are put first.