Finding out your spouse cheated can be devastating. It can shatter your life, it can make you angrier than you ever thought you could be, it can cause gut-wrenching sadness and worst of all, make you feel like the trust you thought you had meant nothing.
What getting divorced at such a young age has taught me is that the relationship you have with someone matters more than the actual wedding and the marriage that follows.
While there are many things you should ask your divorce lawyer, you should really also ask yourself many things such as simply "do I feel good about him or her."
What last name do you use after your divorce? It's a confusing emotional decision for lots of women as they transition to their newly unmarried life. The choices are often complicated. If you took your husband's last name do you keep your married name?
The shame of being divorced twice before 30 drained my will to live.
Resistance reactions are the emotional reactions you have when going through a soul-crushing divorce. They are a coping mechanism designed to help you deal with the situation and a defense mechanism, a way to push back on the reality of a situation.
In the midst of chaos and grief -- divorcing couples often discount the impact their divorce has on their youngest children. In my therapy practice, parents will often send their older children to therapy, but will report that their little ones are "doing just fine."
At first blush they seem so different. Yoga and divorce. One is so Zen. The other is about as "un-Zen" as you could possibly get.
While no two divorces are the same, there are common themes many cases have that can serve as an example for those who follow. Here are the top three mistakes I see people making in their divorces, and some suggestions on alternative responses.
Divorce is ugly and painful. Voiced or not, when you commit to being "one" with each other, divorce is a tearing apart of that oneness and it hurts. Even the amicable divorces can leave deep scars for the couple splitting up, but also for the children.
Getting yourself back out there after divorce can be a harrowing concept. Whether you were married two or twenty years, the thought of jumping back into a ring full of potential psychos, terrible dinners, and awkward conversations just doesn't seem altogether appealing.
my strong feelings for my husband, both positive and negative, were keeping me tied to him. The more I stalked his activities on Facebook or via credit card charges, the less I would be able to heal and move forward with my life.
There is a lot I can't do. We can't go back. We can't all live in the same house. I can't fill the void she has missing her mom when she's at my house, no one can. But still, there is a lot I can do.
Thriving after divorce for me meant nourishing my body, mind and soul. It was about seeing possibilities rather than problems. It was about risking more and stepping outside of my comfort zone. It was about growth, respecting myself and living authentically.
How do we help our clients explain divorce to a 3-year-old? That is something parents must deal with and must get right, to help their children. Whether it is explaining divorce to a 3-year-old, a 6-year-old, or a teenager, it is never easy, especially when it's your own divorce.
Negative self-talk during divorce is the result of a temporary lack of self-esteem that occurs while going through a divorce. I can remember feeling like this weak, exhausted person I didn't even recognize. I lacked self-worth, confidence and self-love. Basically, I forgot about any good qualities I had.