As soon as you know you don't want to be with someone, let them go. Don't do the slow fade and eventually disappear. Be an adult and end it with love, honesty and compassion. It's really disrespectful to lead someone on when you are not sure what you want.
Divorce can be a tough process that heightens emotions and tensions. Removing yourself completely from the threatening environment can often be the best course of action and always call the police if you do not feel safe. Then move ahead with consulting with the family law attorney.
This may sound easy, but with so many myths, misconceptions and piles of misinformation out there, it's actually quite hard to separate people's expectations from reality.
My parent's divorce helped me realize that love cannot be forced, and that you can never settle if what you want is happiness. Love is not easy, but it should always be unconditional and truthful, respectful and gentle. It didn't matter what people thought of us. What mattered was being at peace with who we were.
Whether you realize it or not, divorce (like many other life challenges) has changed you. Shaped you. Strengthened you.
So if you can't stay the hell out of my office, here are a few ways to get out as quickly, economically, and as painlessly as possible for the sake of your wallet and your sanity.
Dating in our teens and 20s was challenging. Dating in our middle adult years, with significant exes, children, pets, mortgages, careers and a boatload of emotional, physical and perhaps even financial baggage, may seem impossible.
Another attorney in the mix might just seem like an added layer of bureaucracy to you, but this attorney can be the key to your case. He or she will either report directly to the judge with a recommendation about how to rule or will be able to present witnesses and question yours at trial.
You stop being the person who something was done to. You start creating a life you love, piece by piece, and it's authentic and genuine and fortified with the strength of your experience and sheer will to transcend bitterness and disappointment -- to step into the world fully.
While no divorce is without challenges, getting through it shows your child how to work through hard times to achieve a brighter future.
I am a divorce lawyer, a divorce survivor, and once upon a time, I was a child of divorce. The divorce of my parents was a long time ago; I was seven to be exact, the third child of four. I remember the before, and I remember the after.
I share my year of adaptation, struggle, triumph, grief and joy -- yes joy -- to imbue you with hope as you ponder the abyss following the end of your relationship. A lot can happen in one year, and some of it is really good.
Not everything I do is because of "the divorce" or because I don't like you. Please try to remember what you felt like when you were my age. No matter how good a parent you are, I'm probably going to try to pull away or even rebel in small or big ways.
Divorce doesn't mean you are a failure. What it means is that you failed at one thing. Everyone fails at something, and most of us have had a bunch of failures. So what?
Do you want to make your ex squirm? Always and I mean, always do the right thing by him or her.
I believe divorce is an opportunity for a new life. I divorced at age 39 and decided I needed some fresh experiences. I was open to taking risks. However, this resulted in some mistakes. Here are a few of my misadventures.