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Divorce Lessons

Divorced Men And Women Reveal What Was Missing From Their Marriages

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 06.15.2016 | Divorce

When you ask someone why they split up with their spouse, they usually chalk it up to simply growing apart. "We started living separate lives," they'l...

10 Totally Unexpected Things You Feel During Divorce

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 02.12.2016 | Divorce

It doesn't matter if you initiated the divorce or your ex did: There are some emotions you experience during the process that totally take you aback, ...

14 Things You Can't Really Know About Marriage Until You're Divorced

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 12.10.2015 | Divorce

People who go through divorce usually come out the other side a lot wiser about love and relationships. That's certainly true of HuffPost Divorce rea...

10 Life Lessons Divorce Taught Me

Divorced Moms | Posted 11.30.2016 | Divorce
Divorced Moms

Through it all, I learned a lot and now am equipped to weather many storms.

What It's Like To Look In The Mirror And See The Woman I Never Planned To Be

Julie Freese | Posted 11.19.2016 | Divorce
Julie Freese

I didn't know who I was because I wasn't myself anymore

16 Things Divorce Teaches You About Marriage

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 11.04.2015 | Divorce

You love differently -- and usually, a whole lot smarter -- after divorce. Below, HuffPost Divorce bloggers and readers on Facebook share some of the ...

4 Things I Didn't Know About Divorce Until It Was Too Late

Divorced Moms | Posted 10.12.2016 | Divorce
Divorced Moms

Simply ask yourself what's really important and get it done as quickly and cheaply as humanly possible.

4 Lessons Divorce Learned From Me

Shauna L Stone | Posted 10.06.2016 | Divorce
Shauna L Stone

I met him at 21 years of age, got engaged at 22, married at 23, left him at 24 and was legally divorced at 25 while living out of state.

Why I Won't Pretend My Divorce At 27 Never Happened

Joni Erdmann | Posted 10.06.2016 | Divorce
Joni Erdmann

Marriage is just one possibility, one option for how to live life.

16 Love Lessons Women Wish They Could Tell Their Younger Selves

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 09.01.2015 | Divorce

You can't change the mistakes you made for love in the past: There's no way to go back and skip that first date with an ex who was bad news from the s...

10 Lessons My Divorce Taught Me About Lasting Love

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW | Posted 08.14.2016 | Divorce
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW

It dawned on me recently that even though I didn't have a divorce party (just wasn't in the mood) it doesn't mean that I can't mark the 20th anniversary of my divorce in some way. So here it goes, my list of the 10 most important lessons I've learned in the last two decades.

14 Things Divorce Teaches You About Marriage

The Huffington Post | Brittany Wong | Posted 06.26.2015 | Divorce

It's easy to dwell on the mistakes you made when a marriage ends, but look on the bright side: going through a divorce makes you smarter about love. T...

7 Divorce Lessons I Had To Learn For Myself

Divorced Moms | Posted 06.08.2016 | Divorce
Divorced Moms

Here are seven lessons about divorce I needed to learn on my own before moving on.

5 Things I Didn't Know About Marriage Until I Got Divorced

Divorced Moms | Posted 06.20.2015 | Divorce
Divorced Moms

We have completely romanticized the notion of marriage. It's why people seemingly spend more time planning the wedding than their actual life together.

5 Lessons From A Twenty-Something Divorcée

Glamour | Posted 09.25.2015 | Divorce

Now, nearly 18 months removed from our split, I'm grateful for the experience. Not for the failure of our marriage -- because with that comes shame and sadness that you can bury but that never really goes away -- but for what going through a divorce taught me about life and about myself.

Divorce Industry Benefits Financially from Making Divorces Too Complicated

Jim Halfens | Posted 10.12.2014 | Divorce
Jim Halfens

It is my firm belief that times are changing in the world of divorces and I do hope the changes will go faster than they have over the past 25 years, because trust me, in most cases it is no longer necessary for people to live under unnecessary and uncertain circumstances against expensive costs during their divorce procedures.

6 Things I Learned From Being In A Bad Marriage

Posted 08.11.2014 | Divorce

By Live By Surprise for I was young and not very worldly when I first got married. I was 21, just out of college -- and I had the...

Divorce Lessons: 8 Critical Choices in Making a Positive Split

John McElhenney | Posted 10.05.2014 | Divorce
John McElhenney

Each parent is responsible to keep their own emotional upset out of the kids' lives. It's fine to let them know or see that you are working through some stuff, but your promise has to be to not work it out in their presence. Get help for yourself outside the walls of your house.

18 Hard-Won Lessons From Having Your Heart Broken

Posted 07.07.2014 | Divorce

They say experience is the greatest teacher, and that's never more true than after a breakup. Take it from us: getting through all those sleepless nig...

Divorced? 4 Valuable Life Lessons to Master Now

Rosalind Sedacca | Posted 09.01.2014 | Divorce
Rosalind Sedacca

Forgiveness is the gift you give to yourself. It's not for or about the other person. It releases you from the pain of staying bound up in the past. Blaming yourself or your former spouse serves no purpose in reinventing your life. It holds you back from enjoying today.

10 Reasons My 'Failed Marriage' Was Anything But A Failure

Posted 06.01.2014 | Divorce

By Sophie Rosen for Our brain tells us that hindsight is 20/20. Yet emotion often gets the best of us. Particularly after a divorc...

10 Things That Surprised Me Most About Divorce

Posted 04.16.2014 | Divorce

By Lee Sears for In a way, everything about divorce is a surprise in the sense that one is not in Kansas anymore. Life after divor...

5 Lessons I Learned From My Divorce (And Why Seth Adam Smith's Advice In 'Marriage Isn't for You' Doesn't Work)

Peggy Nolan | Posted 11.25.2014 | Divorce
Peggy Nolan

I made my first marriage all about my ex-husband. I tried to be the person he wanted me to be except what he wanted was always a moving target. Guess what? That's right -- after 19 years of tilting at windmills we became just another divorce statistic.

What My Kids Taught Me About Divorce

Posted 09.05.2013 | Divorce

You can't help but worry about your kids' well-being when you're getting a divorce. You read every book you can find on child-centered divorce and ben...

Marriage Is Not a Test

Lisa Arends | Posted 07.30.2013 | Divorce
Lisa Arends

Failures are not vacuums; we can summon the strength to move beyond them. The realization that I could choose to redefine my divorce was powerful; it gave me the motivation and momentum to continue.