Though our all-American blended family can be confusing, it's a giant family filled with people who love all of the children involved. Through the years of being on one side or the other or both, I've learned several valuable lessons.
Not all "my parents are divorced" stories are tragic. But then there are the other stories -- stories of unhealed hurt and bitterness that propel people into saying and doing things that are astounding.
I guess I was. And I see now how much better behaved my kids are now that they have that better, more chilled-out mom. More polite language. Better listening and chore-doing. Fewer meltdowns -- and quicker apologies in the event of a spaz-out.