Going to court without a lawyer can be a risky business for anyone, and especially for someone who has been abused. Yet, when we don't provide the legal services victims of domestic violence need, that is what we are asking them to do.
People need to be educated that domestic violence is far broader than physical violence. People involved in contentious family law proceedings need to proceed cautiously and keep their emotions in check.
I call my mother every Father's Day. There was a man in the house, but I have made no secret about the fact that he was never a father to me, in any sense of the word. When I needed my mother, she was there. When I needed a father, she was also there.
It is natural to feel regret from time to time, but try to look ahead and not behind. You can look forward to a fulfilling life after ending your coercive control relationship. Recovery does not happen overnight, but it happens.