If I could sum up the era of my life in which I was discovering my sexuality in one word, that word would be: shame. Despite the personal nature of this story, I feel compelled to share it, because I fully believe that no young woman should have to experience such intense shame -- yet the sad truth is, most do.
I wish knowing women and men are perceived very differently for the same behavior in the workplace didn't leave me questioning whether that is what had happened to me. Being forced to contend with my own ambivalence about having "unfeminine" qualities has, however, allowed me to find some new perspective.
How many more girls and boys are going to get eating disorders because of the pressure they feel to look a certain way? I don't know what is in a young man's heart and mind. I can't imagine what it is like to have testosterone pulsing through my body. But if we keep talking about ALL of this, maybe, together we can find a solution.