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Dying Parents

Living In Fear Of Dying At The Same Age As My Mother

Fredrica Duke | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Fredrica Duke

Now, I'm in a not-so-exclusive club of orphans who live in fear that we might die at the same age as our parent. I try hard to outrun that fate. I have five or so more years until then. Only unlike her, I'm not going down without a fight.

My Mother, The Beauty Queen

Mindy Trotta | Posted 04.17.2013 | Fifty
Mindy Trotta

She worked hard in her new country to maintain some semblance of normalcy, and as I look back on her life now I realize just how difficult that was. Her only true happiness came through us, her children, and ironically the pressure it put upon us pushed us away.

'My Aunt Is Nearly 99 ... She Will Not Live To Be 100'

Rebecca Jane Weinstein | Posted 03.31.2013 | Fifty
Rebecca Jane Weinstein

My aunt is nearly 99. She will not live to be 100. Her photo will not be on the television recalling the date of her birth, with Willard Scott announcing she likes the opera and still volunteers. She will no longer volunteer. There will be no Today for her then.

November Is National Family Caregivers Month: The Personal Is Political

Janet Mason | Posted 01.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Janet Mason

The Obama administration has declared that November is National Family Caregivers Month. The proclamation declares that family member, friends and neighbors dedicate countless hours providing care to their relatives and loved ones.

Dying Parent: Woman Makes Decision About Visiting Abusive Father In Hospice

Lisa Belkin | Posted 01.15.2013 | Fifty
Lisa Belkin

A few weeks ago, a reader who we called "SH" wrote to ask advice from readers about whether to go visit her dying father. He had been abusive to her mother throughout a 20-year-marriage, she wrote, and had cut all ties with his children back when SH was still in her teens. She just made her decision.

Does She Have To Say Good-Bye To A Dying Parent Who Was Abusive?

Lisa Belkin | Posted 12.18.2012 | Fifty
Lisa Belkin

A reader wrote to me at 3 a.m. the other day. Her father, an abusive parent, is in hospice in Florida, about 1,300 miles from her home. To scrape together the funds for travel, and miss work for the days she is away, would leave her destitute, she says. Should she visit him before he dies?

Sibling Rivalry And The Death Of A Parent

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 09.24.2011 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

This sense of one sibling being favored over another often comes to the fore in its ugliest form when a parent is dying, and there are adult children, and there have been no communications by the parents about their wishes.

Parentless Parents: Being Thankful On Thanksgiving

Allison Gilbert | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Allison Gilbert

One of the most gratifying themes I uncovered researching and writing my forthcoming book is just how healing Thanksgiving can be for those of us who have lost our parents.