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Invasion of the 'Deathxperts': Dr. Lindsey Fitzharris/The Chirurgeon's Apprentice Edition

Christian Josi | Posted 05.03.2013 | Arts
Christian Josi

I like to think that I'm the first to notice, love, and highlight a fantastic new phenomenon that's out there: beautiful, young and brilliant women who specialize and punditize on all things morbid. Have you noticed this yet? No? Do pay attention.

The Appalling Thought That Just Occurred To Me

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.20.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

A really appalling thought recently occurred to me. I would even go so far as to call it an epiphany.

Why One Grief Does Not Fit All

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.13.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

They were two men. I was wife to one and daughter to the other. They were two separate, distinct and unbearably difficult losses. I recognized and grieved those two losses as such. All grief is not the same.

To Be Loved Like a Dog

Sarah Hodgson | Posted 03.31.2013 | Women
Sarah Hodgson

As a dog trainer, I've spent the last quarter of a century training dogs and influencing their people. As a wife and mom with two young kids, I'm doing pretty much the same thing.

Is There A Right Way To Grieve?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.30.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

How I Embraced A New Me After The Loss Of My Spouse

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.23.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The widowed community generally spends a lot of time talking about how much late spouses are missed. Not only is this completely and totally normal, it is also a welcome catharsis and a necessary factor in moving through the grieving process. But do you ever miss 'you' as well?

Who's To Blame For Your Spouse's Death?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It is a sad reality that after losing a spouse, many widowed are the victims of accusation, criticism and actual blame. Whether it comes from the outside (relatives, friends, acquaintances, etc.) or is instead self-imposed, there is a lot of unnecessary pain being inflicted on the widowed.

Mourning and Memory: A Paradoxical Grief

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.13.2013 | Science
Wray Herbert

There is a name for disordered mourning. It's called complicated grief, and the abnormal traits may be rooted in a paradox of memory.

Tackling End of Life Issues

Deborah Stambler | Posted 03.10.2013 | Fifty
Deborah Stambler

A friend of mine recently asked if I would be literary executor of his estate. He's 81, in great health and a fine poet with a couple of books published. I know it's not common to talk about death over coffee, but I was glad we got over the weirdness and could talk about everything.

At Peace With Life As I Know It

Alicia Garey | Posted 03.06.2013 | Women
Alicia Garey

I should be arrested for writing something so awful. It feels somehow that if I write this, it will become reality. Everyone knows you must stay positive. You must lead your mind, and thus your body, where you want to go. And yet, I have found my thoughts wandering toward this dark place.

10 New Year Resolutions For Widowers

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.02.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I am delighted to present to you 10 widowed resolutions for your happy new year. These resolutions are meant to bring you peace, comfort and most of all, ownership of both your Healing Journey and ultimately, your life.

The Danger Of Comparing Your Widowhood

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.23.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Please do not look at others in the widowed community and compare your progress (or what you may perceive to be a lack thereof). Your healing journey is not a competition, and it is certainly not a race to some imaginary finish line.

The Six Steps Those Widowed Should Take

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.16.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

In what is known as Widowed World, widowhood is defined as: 'A club that absolutely no one willingly joins; a state of existence that will upend your life as you knew it and forever change the rest of your life from what you had previously and carefully designed into a scary and uncertain future.'

The Changing Conversation On Death

Jaweed Kaleem | Posted 02.13.2013 | Religion
Jaweed Kaleem

We're in a moment of unprecedented change when it comes to the conversation about death. Death, once a private issue, has also gone public and political. At HuffPost, we're covering stories about death.

Your Feelings Are Your Feelings And You Are Entitled to Them

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 02.09.2013 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

When someone we love dies, it doesn't matter what else is going on in the world. What matters is that your loved one is dying. You have every right to feel upset no matter what else is going on around you.

8 Tips for Enjoying Your Holiday Season

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.09.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Many people in the midst of loss or facing a life challenge at this time of year have questions about coping with the holidays. How do you handle the holidays, especially if you don't feel like handling them at all? Read on for answers and a few great holiday suggestions.

Why I Like The Obituary Page

Richard Abrons | Posted 02.07.2013 | Fifty
Richard Abrons

If you could read only two pages of The New York Times, which would you choose? I would choose the front page and the obituary page. When I come home from a trip, I dash through the papers and scan those two pages. I have to know who, among my friends and acquaintances, kicked the bucket.

On Turning 50 And Remembering There's No Prize For The Most Beautiful Corpse

Linda Flanagan | Posted 02.05.2013 | Fifty
Linda Flanagan

I turned 50 last week. My younger friends smiled sympathetically and offered hugs, as if I'd just received a cancer diagnosis. Older ones grinned conspiratorially, as if I'd suddenly succumbed to their evil charms and crossed over to the dark side.

My Grief Can Beat Your Grief: A 'Widow-Tude' Adjustment (Part 2)

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.02.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The moment has arrived to call a time-out in the game of "My Pain is Worse Than Your Pain." It is indeed time for a Widow-tude Adjustment; both within and outside the widowed community.

The Two-Minute Defining Moment

William Horden | Posted 01.30.2013 | TED Weekends
William Horden

Imagine you are wide awake when your breathing gently stops. I had the good fortune to be lying in the emergency room when this happened to me some nine years ago. Like yourself, perhaps, I expected to gasp for breath, panicking, but instead felt entirely calm -- despite the doctor's quizzical look.

You Will Die Momentarily

Ira Israel | Posted 01.30.2013 | TED Weekends
Ira Israel

How often should one think about his or her upcoming rendezvous with non-existence? In my humble opinion, there are two main problems with death.

The Secret My Newborn and My Grandmother Shared

Amanda King | Posted 01.26.2013 | Parents
Amanda King

If they're lucky, (like they all should be) they learn that being alive means being surrounded by color and light and softness, and all wrapped up in love.

My Grief Can Beat Your Grief: A 'Widow-Tude' Adjustment (Part 1)

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 01.26.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I now reluctantly welcome you to Part One of a game that I despise; a game called, "My Pain is Worse Than Your Pain."

What Does It Feel Like To Tell Someone How Long They Have Left To Live?

Quora | Posted 01.19.2013 | Health News
Quora

This question originally appeared on Quora. By Andrew Young Shin, Pediatric Cardiologist It doesn't change my focus or delivery of care. This may ...

Getting Through The "Giving Thanks": 4 Thanksgiving Tips For Those Who May Be Feeling Anything But Thankful

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 01.19.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Thanksgiving. Normally a time of festivity, feasting and "fat pants," your Thanksgiving may instead be filled with dread, gloom or outright sadness if you are coping with the loss of a loved one.