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From Condemnation To Inspiration: Surviving Cancer As A Child And A Mother

Kara Gorski, Ph.D. | Posted 01.08.2013 | Women
Kara Gorski, Ph.D.

When I discovered my own breast cancer, I immediately felt condemned to the journey my mother had walked almost 30 years before.

Embracing Fear

Dr. Michael Finkelstein | Posted 01.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Michael Finkelstein

There are several ways we can become more comfortable with death, the dying and the dead. The first is to being open to talking about it. There needs to be an open dialogue and expression of the fears and concerns that we have about death or dying or the dead.

Nothing You Can Say Will Make Them Feel Better

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 01.06.2013 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

We seem to think that we need to have the answers for people's pain and sadness. We don't. What we need to have is the ability to sit with someone and not say anything. Nothing you can say will make them feel better.

The ONE Thing to Never Say After a Long-Term Illness

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 01.23.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

You have read it in newspapers, you have seen it in obituaries or heard it at funerals and you have certainly heard it on the news many times -- you may even actually say it yourself.

Understanding Grief: Mourning In A Healthier Way

Judith Johnson | Posted 12.24.2012 | Healthy Living
Judith Johnson

Wouldn't it be in our best interest as a society to transform our fear-based culture of death by encouraging a healthier belief about death as a normal occurrence? There is so much we could do to educate and prepare ourselves to handle death with greater loving, service, and compassion.

On His Deathbed, WWII Vet Casts Likely Last Ballot... So What's Your Excuse Not To Vote?

Posted 10.22.2012 | Politics

Frank Tanabe always did his duty, even after the federal government sent him and other Japanese-Americans to internment camps in the wake of the attac...

Critics, Critics Everywhere

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 12.22.2012 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

No one has the right to criticize how anyone suffering a loss handles anything -- from whether or not they visit a gravesite (be it sooner, later or ever) to a decision to sell everything that they own and sail around the world.

'How Long Were You Married?': Is ANY Length of Time Ever 'Enough'?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 12.08.2012 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

No matter the amount of time you spent as a couple, you will always feel robbed and cheated out of even more time with your beloved because you were forced to say goodbye. No one is ever ready for that terrible day -- or for that terrible goodbye.

Fading Away: A Lesson in Life, Death, and Reconciliation

Robert L. Cavnar | Posted 12.06.2012 | Healthy Living
Robert L. Cavnar

She looked at me and asked if I had anything to say. It all came out at once; I burst into tears, unable to speak. She apologized for the years she was hard on me, saying she only wanted me to be successful. It didn't matter what words she used. I understood her meaning, and forgave her.

You Never Know Until You're There

Martha Nelson | Posted 11.18.2012 | Fifty
Martha Nelson

As she aged, she'd see a show on television or read something in the newspaper about a lingering or painful death and say with conviction, "When my time comes, let me go."

Thriving While Dying: Fearlessly Embracing A Terminal Illness

Rick A. Reynolds | Posted 11.08.2012 | Healthy Living
Rick A. Reynolds

"My doctors say I have at best three months left to live. I refuse to believe it and know that working with you will help me survive." That's how my work began with the client who taught me the most about living fearlessly and making every second count.

Dying to Talk to You

Doug Binzak | Posted 11.05.2012 | Healthy Living
Doug Binzak

But there is also a truth, the "good news," which far fewer of us have experienced, which is that there is an end to suffering. Not an escape, but an end. And it doesn't come at death; it comes when we face our suffering, face our fears, and address them head on, with support, and move through them.

The Surprising Communities That Surround Me

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 10.28.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

Each of these communities brought its own sense of sacredness and grace to me as I continue to mourn my mother's death and celebrate her life. I have learned a great deal about what it feels like to be cared for.

On Getting Old: You May Be Aging Gracefully, But Are You Aging Fearlessly? (VIDEO)

Terri Cole | Posted 10.25.2012 | Healthy Living
Terri Cole

It is totally possible to embrace the aging process and grow older fearlessly! But as with everything, the choice is yours. Choose fearlessness rather than denial, which does not produce the results you seek and keeps you constricted and stuck.

Living Between Life and Death

Dan Gottlieb, Ph.D. | Posted 10.24.2012 | Healthy Living
Dan Gottlieb, Ph.D.

Here I sit every day with the exciting and unpredictable life of this ivy plant on my left and a reminder of peaceful smile of death on my right. And that's where I live. That's where we all live.

Fear And Grief: My New Normal

Deborah Sumner | Posted 10.17.2012 | Healthy Living
Deborah Sumner

My fear is that I lost more than my mom; I lost an ally, a protector, a counselor, and a confidante. Even though she's not physically here, she's still a huge part of who I am.

Is Our Society's 'Voldemort' the Concept of Death Itself?

Doug Binzak | Posted 10.15.2012 | Healthy Living
Doug Binzak

We have tried so hard to anesthetize ourselves from the perceived horror of death that most of us have cut ourselves off from knowing how to deal with this profound and inevitable aspect to life.

Fear And Grief: 'When You Lose Your Mother, You Also Lose Your Childhood'

Deborah Sumner | Posted 10.03.2012 | Healthy Living
Deborah Sumner

My sister Janet told me that I'm stronger than she is in dealing with the loss of our mother. Maybe that's true, but I think it's that I let other people's well-meaning but fear-based comments pass through me, rather than letting them take hold of me.

In Loving Memory

Daliah Merzaban | Posted 09.17.2012 | Religion
Daliah Merzaban

We often shirk at reminders of death in our daily lives. We race through life as though we are racing down this trail and while we may see the benches, we rush past them, ignoring what is written on the plaques.

'Allowing' vs.'Do Not': Language Makes A Huge Difference In End-Of-Life Decisions

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 09.05.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

My mother's body is naturally aging and her organs are "getting tired." Her kidneys are beginning to shut down. Her body is beginning its "natural" process of shutting down. So, why am I signing something that says not to do something?

Legacy in Mind: Why We Bother to Save the Planet

Wray Herbert | Posted 08.19.2012 | Science
Wray Herbert

Global warming is an undisputed scientific fact now, and there is little doubt that this ominous trend is related to human activity, including the burning of fossil fuels. I completely accept the science of climate warming, yet I don't always do the right thing by my heirs. Why is that?

Call Them 'Compassion Panels,' Not 'Death Panels'

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 08.11.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

I think that we need to re-label the idea of these "panels" so that we are actually talking about how we need to treat people with compassion no matter what decision has to be made concerning a loved one's end of life issues.

Should Doctors Learn to Grieve?

Barbara Coombs Lee | Posted 07.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Barbara Coombs Lee

Grieving openly serves the important function of assuring ourselves and others that it is normal, and temporary, and part of a full and authentic life. Only suppressed grief threatens one's mental health.

Death: The Final Word?

Robert V. Taylor | Posted 07.24.2012 | Healthy Living
Robert V. Taylor

In spite of decades working with the dying and bereaved families, my familiarity with end-of-life choices, death and grief was now staring me in the face, reflecting the image of the woman who gave birth to me.

Can A Person 'Suffer From Life'?

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 06.27.2012 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

Do you think that there is such a thing as "suffering from life"? Do you think that people should be able to make their own decision as to whether or not to end their life?