Many of us have been conditioned to believe love is supposed to hurt. I'm not sure where that philosophy came from, but it's alive, well and heavily practiced in relationships all over the world. We stay with people who neglect us, take us for granted and mistreat us. We mask such actions as "growing pains" of the relationship and attribute them to being "just how love is." But love is not pain; it isn't constant disappointment or abuse of any kind. Love is actually the exact opposite.