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In Brazil's Macho Culture, Homophobia and Misogyny Are Intertwined

Frente Feminista Casperiana Lisandra | Posted 06.24.2015 | Gay Voices
Frente Feminista Casperiana Lisandra

Both homophobia and sexism are part of the structure of the patriarchy. They are the most enduring building blocks in the construction of prejudice. And when those ideas come from within the gay community, we have a paradoxical situation.

Feeling Russell Tovey (Why I Strut)

Patrick Roth | Posted 05.04.2015 | Gay Voices
Patrick Roth

For much of my life, I have taken what I was born with, mixed it with what the world has given me and crafted the man that everyone else sees. I've also learned to like who I am, regardless of how others see me. That's really no different than what Russell Tovey did.

Am I Transphobic?: My History With Transgender Women and Effeminate Men

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 11.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

If transgender people want to be respected and accepted for who they are, then the same courtesy must be extended to cisgender men. One's sexual gender preference deserves as much respect and acceptance as one's gender identity. This realization helped me come to terms with my general lack of attraction for trans women.

Femininity in Men Is a Form of Power

Diriye Osman | Posted 09.01.2014 | Gay Voices
Diriye Osman

If a Somali man is considered feminine he is deemed weak, helpless, pitiful: The underlying message being that femininity is inherently inferior to masculinity. Variants of this thinking extend across most cultures, belief systems, races and sexualities.

Ever Wondered If You Could Tell The Difference Between Gay And Straight People?

The Huffington Post | Sarah Barness | Posted 06.03.2014 | Gay Voices

In this video presented by Berlin-based YouTubers Felix and Marius, we are asked to guess which person is gay or straight based on how they say words ...

The Strength in Being a Feminine Gay Man

Tyler Curry | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Tyler Curry

Even after I accepted my sexuality, I struggled with my femininity. I spent hours in the gym, building my body in an effort to emulate the ideal of what men supposedly should look like. I even shaved my head. But the nasal voice and extra bounce in my step were inescapable.

She's So Trauma

Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W. | Posted 12.05.2014 | Gay Voices
Mark O'Connell, L.C.S.W.

The phrase "she's so drama" is used to needle someone who acts too "girly" by expressing more emotion than social conventions allow. But we might ask ourselves whether he (or "she") could be the victim of a social trauma, the trauma of being viewed, treated, and dismissed as "like a girl."

The Rise Of The Gay Feminist

Tyler Curry | Posted 03.26.2013 | Gay Voices
Tyler Curry

The gay community is not immune to the idea that femininity is second-class. We still trot out our brawniest and brusquest as our spokesmen. It astounds me that gay culture continues to perpetuate the values that have kept women and gay men oppressed.

You're Just Like a Million Others, Snowflake

Brad Bell | Posted 02.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Brad Bell

Husbands embraces clichés, stereotypes and tropes to make a point: Most old ideas are only as meaningless or as negative as their context. Few of these notions are intrinsically detrimental, as the judgements we attach to them exist only in our minds.

Women! This Is Your Fight, Too

Jane Espenson | Posted 12.13.2012 | Gay Voices
Jane Espenson

Femininity is absolutely still seen as something shameful among males. In season 2 of Husbands, we dug even deeper into this idea, building our story around the idea that the "gayer" character is less publicly acceptable.

Is Effeminacy a Choice?

Mike Alvear | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Mike Alvear

There's an undeniable pansy vortex in gay life. You fall into it with baggy jeans and climb out of it with spandex up the crack of your ass.