"My career just hasn't gone the way I wanted it to," a friend just told me over lunch. He quickly followed up with "but everything seems to be working for you." He didn't say it to be snide or even envious, just as I don't recount that conversation now to be boastful. He was just stating what was, to him, a fact. I hear it a lot.
The day I learned not to measure my own beauty and self-worth by others' reactions is the day I began seeing myself in my best angles and light. So post away, lovers of thy selfies, and make no apologies. Love who you are and everyone who cares for you will continue being additions to the love you already have for yourself.
Your reality is consistently a reflection of your inner state. When you live with an inner knowledge of your own security and safety, the emotions of security and safety will be perpetuated and reflected back like a mirror into your life. In other words, the only way to truly defend yourself from emotional danger is to live and act from a place of security and wholeness.