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Elderly Parents

How To Survive The Communication Minefield Related To Eldercare

Lindsay Pyfer | Posted 07.19.2016 | Fifty
Lindsay Pyfer

For years, I saved articles on how to determine whether an elderly person needs more help or a change of living situation. But when the time came to intervene with my own mother -- widowed and living alone -- I was utterly unprepared for the emotions that flared and the strain it put on our relationship.

Sometimes I Hate My Mother -- But I Care For Her Anyway

Laura Dixon | Posted 06.24.2016 | Fifty
Laura Dixon

'I love my mother -- but sometimes I hate her, too.' Saying those words out loud -- or even to yourself in your head -- can be a painful acknowledgment that even late in life we can't always make our relationships with our parents work out the way we want them to.

Parenting Our Parents Day: A Holiday for Grown Kids Who Care for Their Moms and Dads

Jan DeBlieu | Posted 06.03.2016 | Women
Jan DeBlieu

"Can you help us?" The elderly woman spoke in a singsong voice so loud that everyone in the bank turned and stared. She wanted to know if the two anc...

First they take your salt, then they take your car keys, but what about your sexy time?

Laura Collins Lyster-Mensh | Posted 05.31.2016 | Fifty
Laura Collins Lyster-Mensh

We all have that dream of an extended luxury vacation. You are waited on hand and foot. Your linens are changed, your laundry taken care of. Food desi...

Balancing the Checkbook, and Much More, For an Aging Parent

Michael A. Whitehouse | Posted 05.10.2016 | Fifty
Michael A. Whitehouse

Settling the affairs of a parent who recently has died presents a family with emotional and practical challenges. Primary among those is attending to the family finances.

Write Now

Carol Bryant | Posted 05.04.2016 | Women
Carol Bryant

I decided that instead of birthday presents of more stuff, what I wanted most from my mother was more memories. Her memories. I already had my memories but wanted to hear her version. And so I asked that in the future, could she send me gifts of memories.

Safety Comes at a Price

Gabriella van Rij | Posted 04.19.2016 | Fifty
Gabriella van Rij

I have to find a moment to tell her between the memory lapses, to tell her... I, her daughter, have to tell her that I am taking away her freedom, her right to go home. I feel a huge, tight ball settle in the pit of my stomach.

Elder Care: Conversations of Care

Elizabeth Esrey | Posted 04.19.2016 | Parents
Elizabeth Esrey

According to Bureau of Labor Statistics U.S. 2015, roughly 40 million Americans provide unpaid elder care to a loved one. As loved ones age, their ne...

The Guilt Wheel

Chef Rossi | Posted 04.18.2016 | Parents
Chef Rossi

My grandmother died on a Ferris wheel. People in my family have looked back on this as a pretty good way to die - well, as far as deaths go, anyway -...

The Very Very Very Very Last Goodbye

Chef Rossi | Posted 04.05.2016 | Women
Chef Rossi

I know the next place is calling him. tell myself Dad is going home.

Should An 87-Year-Old Still Be Driving?

Tamar Abrams | Posted 03.28.2016 | Fifty
Tamar Abrams

Acts of bravery can be large or small, and sometimes so infinitesimal that they pass without notice. I want to share one of those small moments that occurred without fanfare but entailed the same courage that most such brave actions do.

Why I Must Teach my Mum to Read 2

Anthea Rowan | Posted 02.26.2016 | Women
Anthea Rowan

I see Mum gazing at my books, my house is stuffed full of them - from mum, from my grandmother - a nine foot tall bookshelf teeters in a hallway, dred...

Unpaid Family Leave Is Leaving the Sandwich Generation Behind

The Heller School | Posted 02.01.2016 | Fifty
The Heller School

Other countries offer their working parents family and medical leave that is of longer duration and at least partially paid. The U.S. is one of the wealthiest countries in the world, yet we are amongst the 112 countries (out of 145) that do not provide paid leave away from work to care for adult family members.

Pico Boulevard (for Dad on Chanukah)

Chef Rossi | Posted 12.07.2015 | GPS for the Soul
Chef Rossi

They say nobody walks in LA, unless it's on the treadmill. I do. But then, I'm a New Yorker. New Yorkers would walk to Mars if we could. Walking f...

4 Myths That Make The Burden Of Caregiving Even Worse

Anne Tumlinson | Posted 09.22.2015 | Fifty
Anne Tumlinson

In the middle of August, I woke up in a cold sweat, anxious about my many pre-vacation obligations, checked my email and found this message from another mom, 'Fighting the feeling of being utterly overwhelmed.'

How To Deal With Aging Parents When You Live Abroad

Ana McGinley | Posted 05.03.2016 | Fifty
Ana McGinley

Every year the number of people embarking on exciting expat assignments increases. For many expats this excitement is dampened by the loss of family we leave behind. They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it is difficult to deny the poignancy of saying goodbye to aging parents.

John Wayne, Muhammad Ali and Marty

Chef Rossi | Posted 06.27.2015 | Women
Chef Rossi

If a former runaway teen with decades of anger and distance and thousands of miles between her and her father could find her way back to a lonely old man in a wheelchair finally ready to talk to anyone who wants to listen, anyone can bridge the gap.

6 Survival Tips for Women Writers

Holly Robinson | Posted 04.06.2015 | Books
Holly Robinson

Leave home. I don't care if you borrow a friend's empty kitchen while she's away for the weekend, sign up for a writing retreat, or rent a motel room, but find a way to get out of your house. Your family will survive and you will come to embrace this time, making the almighty leap between caretaker and woman writer easier.

How To Keep Tabs On An Elderly Parent When You Can't Be There

Jim T. Miller | Posted 03.01.2015 | Fifty
Jim T. Miller

There are many different assistive technology products available today that can help families keep an eye on an elderly loved one when they can't be there. Depending on your dad's needs and how much you're willing to spend, here are some good options to consider.

Sanity-Saving Secrets For Caring For Your Aging Parents

Posted 12.19.2014 | OWN

Your Starter Kit Three questions to ask your parents right now. 1. Do you have a living will? Roughly 72 percent of seniors have advance directiv...

"I Love My Mother. But If She Passed Away Today I Would Be Thankful"

Elaine Ambrose | Posted 12.23.2014 | Fifty
Elaine Ambrose

I love my mother. But if she passed away today I would be thankful. That doesn't make me a heartless, horrible daughter; I only want her to be free from earthly constraints and permanent disability.

Facing the 7 Biggest Money Fears This Halloween, Part 2

David A. Dedman | Posted 12.16.2014 | Money
David A. Dedman

First, make sure you have all the information you need to make a good decision. Second, don't make a quick decision about money. Finally, like I said before, make decisions that you would feel comfortable making for your own money.

How To Find Strength During Your Parent's Slow Descent Into Dementia

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 10.18.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

I open the door to step back into the room, and he is already asleep again. Sitting in the chair by his bed. The effort to get dressed and move to the chair was too much. He is spent. His lungs are filled with fluid, and he no longer has the physical strength to cough it up. They are giving him medicine designed to help, and he tries, but he just can't get it out anymore.

Dear Dad: An Open (Heart) Letter to My Unintentionally Influential Father

Laurel Miller | Posted 09.24.2014 | Women
Laurel Miller

I've given my strange proclivities a lot of thought, and the only source of blame I can point to is my dad, Dr. Robert M. Miller, aka RMM, Bob, or "Doc." Most people assume that being the child of a veterinarian (a large and exotic vet, at that) isn't all that different from having a parent who's an MD, if they think about it at all.

Am I a Health Advocate?

Victor Imbimbo | Posted 04.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Victor Imbimbo

An advocate is defined as, "One that supports or promotes the interests of another." Given this definition, as a family caregiver, you are the ultimate health advocate, because you are constantly supporting the health interests of your loved one.