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I Like My Coworker Better Than My Boyfriend -- Should I Break Up?

Em & Lo | Posted 05.26.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Dear Em & Lo, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we live together. In the beginning we were madly in love but then, as with most couples, th...

Top 5 Love Lessons From the Season Premiere of "The Bachelorette"

Em & Lo | Posted 05.24.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

It's baaaaaaaack. The premiere of season 12 of ABC's The Bachelorette found (the boobs of) Joelle "JoJo" Fletcher bouncing back from being very ceremoniously dumped on national television by milquetoast cousin of Miss Piggy, Ben Higgins, on the last season of The Bachelor

'Unbundling' -- A Great Example of How to Divorce Amicably

Em & Lo | Posted 05.20.2016 | Divorce
Em & Lo

A friend of ours on Facebook, whom we'll call E, recently announced in a status update that he and his wife are divorcing. We were so impressed with the tone and spirit of the message and the approach to uncoupling they seem to be taking, we asked if we could reprint his posts here. They graciously agreed.

EXCLUSIVE: The Top Secret Outline of GOOP's Next "Sex Issue"!

Em & Lo | Posted 05.13.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

This week, Gwyneth Paltrow launched the first ever Sex Issue on her "much-discussed" lifestyle blog,  It's been a long-time coming from th...

What Are the Rules of the Rebound?

Em & Lo | Posted 05.11.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Dear Em & Lo, I just got out of a long-term relationship. I'm just wondering how long one should wait before dating or hooking up or whatever it's c...

8 Things You Should Know About Consent on College Campuses

Em & Lo | Posted 05.05.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Here's my definition of sexual consent: two (or more) people actively, explicitly and consciously agreeing to have sexual interactions throughout those interactions, with no party having any reservations at any point

How to Discuss Your Sexual History with a New Partner

Em & Lo | Posted 05.03.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

We're not going to candy-coat it: The talk will be awkward as hell. Though not as awkward as a surprise case of herpes. Just don't make us pull out the cliche that if you're comfortable enough to get naked and grind with a new partner then you should be comfortable enough to talk with them.

Goodnight Sweet Prince: Remembering the Legend's Sexiest Songs

Em & Lo | Posted 04.22.2016 | Entertainment
Em & Lo

I guess you could say he was a sex fiend. Prince -- who died on April 21st, 2016 at the young age of 57 -- dedicated a lot of musical acreage on most of his albums to unabashed sexual expression.

The 21 Best Transgender and Gender Non-conforming Books for Kids

Em & Lo | Posted 04.15.2016 | Queer Voices
Em & Lo

Here's a comprehensive list of great books for kids -- novels, picture books, workbooks, memoirs and profiles -- that deal with transgender and intersex issues, gender non-conformity and sexual orientation as it relates to trans people.

Meeting Cecile Richards on the Road Stumping for Hillary

Em & Lo | Posted 04.27.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Yesterday, on a quiet, beautiful afternoon in Rhinebeck, New York, I (the Lo of squeezed into the greenhouse wing of the historic Beekman Arms (one of the oldest continuously operating inns in America, and also where Chelsea Clinton had her rehearsal dinner) to see Cecile Richards, President of Planned Parenthood, speak about the importance of women's reproductive rights and voting for the candidate most equipped to protect them, Hillary Clinton.

The Future Is NOW: 13 Remote-Controlled Sex Toys Available Today

Em & Lo | Posted 04.08.2016 | Technology
Em & Lo

Co-written and -researched with our go-to psychologist, Dr. AlanK: You are here and your sweetheart is there...either across a crowded room or acros...

Dating's Dead, Long Live These 10 Millennial Mating Patterns

Em & Lo | Posted 03.30.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Not only is it challenging for Generation X to understand the new millennial mating rules of the 21st century, it's difficult for millennials themselves to understand them, since there's often so much grey area. Here, we try to define the terms explicitly, so we can all get on the same dating page. Even though dating is dead.

How Many Sexual Partners Is Too Many?

Em & Lo | Posted 03.24.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

No one ever woke up feeling sick and full of regret because they surpassed some imaginary quota, but you can bet plenty of people have met the new day feeling sick and full of regret because the previous night's experience wasn't satisfying or meaningful or fun or safe or sober.

7 Tips for Getting Over a Sexual Hang-Up

Em & Lo | Posted 03.17.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Maybe you feel silly doing it, or you're unsure of how to do it, or your upbringing has told you "good people don't." Assuming you've got a hangup you genuinely want to get over, then here a few quick tips for having your Sandra-Dee makeover moment in the sack.

10 Super Easy Ways to Be More Romantic

Em & Lo | Posted 03.11.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Romance is contagious. So the best way to get your partner to be more romantic is to be more romantic with them first. Here are 10 not-too-arduous ways to do just that.

In Honor of International Women's Day: 7 Ways to Achieve Sexual Parity

Em & Lo | Posted 03.09.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Being sex and relationship writers, our own focus is, not surprisingly, on gender parity in the bedroom. Here are 7 steps any gal can take to make sure her bed is an even playing field.

How to Split the Bill in 7 Easy Steps

Em & Lo | Posted 03.04.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Dates may be cheap but they ain't never free. So who coughs up?

The 8 Guys You'll Find On Tinder (And The One You Won't)

Em & Lo | Posted 03.03.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Whether you're brand new to Tinder or you've downloaded the app, used it, deleted it, and re-downloaded it 100 more times, chances are you've come across these common straight male characters on the popular dating (read: hook-up) app.

How to Dump Someone: Breakup Lines That Don't Suck

Em & Lo | Posted 02.18.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

You've heard of pick-up lines, but what about break-up lines? At least effective and realistic ones beyond "It's not you, it's me." There's no perfect way to break up with someone -- it's gonna suck for both of you (but especially them) no matter how you do it.

5 Ways to Beat the Green-Eyed Monster

Em & Lo | Posted 02.12.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Here are our top 5 tips for vanquishing the green-eyed monster. Or at least making friends with it.

Top 10 Reasons for Being -- and Staying -- NON-Monogamous

Em & Lo | Posted 02.01.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Monogamy has had its turn, so let's give non-monogamy a chance. In a culture dominated by fundamentalist religious values, it's easy to be overwhelmed by the chorus of slut-shaming that arises when the topic of simultaneous multiple partners comes up.

The 15 Most Romantic Movies Streaming On Netflix This Valentine's Day

Em & Lo | Posted 01.29.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

With Valentine's Day around the corner, it's time to get in the mood for love.

10 Questions To Ask Yourself About Your Significant Other

Em & Lo | Posted 01.19.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

Are they too good to be true?

5 Fixes for Saying the Wrong Name in Bed

Em & Lo | Posted 01.08.2016 | Women
Em & Lo

We feel your pain. And so do a lot of other people! It's a common mistake many people make with new partners, especially if they're coming off a long-term relationship. Here are 5 fixes for this kind of mess up, some of which are inspired by our own readers' responses to previous advice questions on this exact topic.

How to Watch 'The Bachelor' With Your Wife or Girlfriend

Em & Lo | Posted 01.06.2016 | Entertainment
Em & Lo

The start of the 4,532nd season of The Bachelor means my wife has reinstated her ongoing Bachelor viewing parties with some of her female friends. Rather than rolling my eyes and hiding out in my non-existent mancave, I crack a beer and settle in next to her on our couch...because I love my wife, because I'm secure in my masculinity, and -- most importantly -- because I actually enjoy it.