I recently read an article about how the nude selfie and the culture of social media in general is changing our perception of what "normal" behavior is.
In the gym, just like in my business, I measure backward and use that measurement to determine my next move. I am constantly looking to improve, but I base my choices on what has recently happened, not on what I hope will happen in the future.
It's a given that all athletes are concerned about their speed, strength and endurance while playing in the Super Bowl, but all of them are very much aware that having their heads on straight that day will make or break them.
I work as a psychologist in a small Alaskan town where winters are long and many people, including myself, experience the winter blues. With my clients and in my own life, I use and recommend the following six strategies for increasing well-being year-round.
Of all the subjects covered, none is more harrowing than the story of Melissa Moody, a former debutante and beauty queen who was run over by truck in 1992, resulting in the permanent disfigurement of her face.
In litigated custody battles, clients sometimes ask if their child can testify. This is undoubtedly tempting, especially if your child is saying he or she wants to spend more time with you than your ex-spouse. However tempting, there are a few things you need to consider.
We know more about our personal characteristics today than we did when Lewin was around. Perhaps most importantly, we know that your abilities are not fixed in stone. You can improve.
Divorce is rarely a mutual decision and each role ("the leaver" or "the one left") has its own unique experiences. Unfortunately I have traveled down both sides of this potholed street, but on each path there were shining green lights after all the roadwork was completed.
The opposite of letting go is to hold on to and be attached to something. That means we love and desire it or are harping on the negative effects of what it has done to us. If you've reached the need to "let it go" stage, it means that your attachment has consumed you
This exercise will give you a chance to view your life as the force of energy that you are. When you're done, you'll have a clearer view into the things that cost and feed your energy, along with things that help you conserve it. This kind of awareness is the essential beginning of any change.
I think we all struggle with this mean inner dialogue from time to time. I see it every day with my clients. My challenge to us all is to be nicer to ourselves. Especially to take the why out of our self-talk and replace it with how come or what.
Neuroscience is a scientific lens through which we can see deeper into how to get the most out of people by supporting them with what their brains really need.
The first computers were free-standing machines. Later, we learned how to hook them up and the result was an enormous increase in computing power. A parallel shift in our notion of selfhood is called for. The current default self, subscribed to by most people most of the time, is a stand-alone model. The new default self, to be posited in this essay, is more like a computer network.
There are a great many available tests and inventories that can assess your level of emotional intelligence, and we've added our own to this list and offer it here, with the understanding that it is not meant to be used as a clinical or diagnostic tool, but rather as a means to informally assess the strengths and weaknesses that you possess in regard to areas of your life that are relevant to EI.
There is a time and place for explanations, but if they precede empathy and validation, they are going to be considered "excuses" and you will be despised for them.
I stayed on the line with the 911 dispatcher, sickened and shaking. Emergency services took very seriously a psychiatrist who felt that a patient was in the midst of a suicide attempt. After the police entered the patient's apartment, I was patched into their radio communications.
Many of the same behavioral activation techniques that are used in the treatment of depression can improve your mental wellness even if you do not suffer from depression.
Relationships can feel incredible at the start and quickly turn heated or bland at best. All we want is to just reclaim the love we once felt, but something that seems so simple can feel like moving mountains.
Once I decided to leave the gym I desperately tried to figure out what would replace it... the class or the boot camp or the activity that would be the right fit now.
Soon no more Holocaust survivors will be alive, and our duty of remembering and understanding increases. This means, among other things, that we must face the uncomfortable truths about human nature that Auschwitz symbolizes.