True love-ability is an attitude. It's a way of being. It's the way you show up in the world. And because it's not based on the reactions of others, it is the deepest security, created from the only thing in life you can totally control, i.e. your own spirit.
As you focus on yourself, you learn to love yourself. When you love yourself you become that elegant, confident, graceful, desirable woman who commands the right kind of attention and praise. Why? Because people can feel you have it together inside and out.
We believe that in many cases, medical training not only does not select for or cultivate such personality traits, but actively selects and develops barriers against them.
The news of Robbin Williams' tragic death by suicide caught me off guard. It took me far back into my own life and my experience with severe depression.
The domination, killing, destruction, increased work and effort of modern society are not the hallmarks of intelligence, but rather stupidity. How can we use the 10% of our mental capacity more intelligently and effectively? Here are a few ideas:
The word "together" is a powerful social cue to the brain. In and of itself, it seems to serve as a kind of relatedness reward, signaling that you belong, that you are connected, and that there are people you can trust working with you toward the same goal.
How does a society that teaches preschoolers to play well, share toys and not hit raise highly educated leaders to justify revenge, invade countries and develop weapons to kill?
Three years ago, we launched New Voice Strategies, a nonprofit designed to close the empathy gap by giving individuals a more direct say in our public institutions.
True happiness exists within and does not waver, regardless of the circumstances you find yourself in. It does not come from a promotion or a vacation, it comes from being healed and moving forward as life does.
Twenty-one years ago, as a young woman wandering around India on a one-way plane ticket and having never published anything, Yogi Ramsuratkumar, a great holy man who I met in Southern India, said to me, "Mariana will write things for people all over the world to read!"
It is paramount that we only focus our efforts on creating flow within our own minds because there is no way we can maintain structure in our external environment. Maintaining a mindful and non-judging awareness of ourselves may be the highest form on intelligence.
How can markets be made efficient when people aren't? Apparent market failures are often attributed to individuals making apparent 'irrational' decisions. However, I argue that markets can be made more efficient when creating environments for individuals that aid their decision-making.
"Question authority. Go ahead, ask me anything." This remains one of my all-time favorite bumper stickers. Someday I'll put one on my own car, for comedic value. I'd also like to hand out boxes of these stickers to executives in my large corporate clients, to post on their office walls. In that case, my goal isn't to get a laugh.
I am aware of what makes you brighten up and have those pleasurable magic moments. I am also painfully aware of those little moments that drive women of all ages just a little bit crazy and makes you want to rip your hair out.
Our thoughts influence our emotions, and vice versa. To truly achieve internal harmony, we must understand and manage both. And in order to do this we must engage in the practice of reversing our senses.
A vigilant focus when swimming with sharks is essential for survival. Paying attention to what matters in life is essential too -- part of this is recognizing that first impressions aren't always correct.
Negative caricatures of aging are far too prevalent in our culture -- and they are harmful. Simply telling people to think positively about aging doesn't work, because the mind is very good at thwarting such explicit lessons. There may, however, be a more subtle way to mitigate the deleterious effects of such caricatures.
When someone kills themselves, it arouses all kinds of responses. Disbelief. Despair. Anger. Confusion. Fear. Overwhelming empathy for those who loved that person. Deep sadness for the one who faced such a choice.
Being mindful of our surroundings and appreciating the beauty around us, cleaning up our messes and someone else's are ways to show our respect for the world we live in.
Focusing on what's not happening or what's wrong is a sure way to keep manifesting the same. And indeed it will only bring you more of what you don't ...