Once you see where you're shape-shifting to satisfy your ideas about other peoples' desires, you get the awareness that your reality is made up of choices that you are making, not someone else. The beautiful, liberating news is that you are free to choose again.
For most people family relationships are the most challenging in our lives, so it's not surprising that if we are in a place of profound loss and vulnerability then spending time with family members at Christmas may trigger some complex emotional responses.
What might the goal of wholeness -- rather than happiness -- open up in your life?
One mistake is just an outlier. Two mistakes is the beginning of a pattern. Killing this pattern before it snowballs into something bigger is one reason why learning how to get back on track quickly is an essential skill for building good habits.
If someone has treated us badly, an inability to forgive will cause the situation to return to our mind again and again, each time loaded with intense emotions that can eat away at our own inner well-being. It is important to remember that forgiveness doesn't mean that we are condoning something that wasn't all right.
I found myself glancing up at the register each time I heard it. When a smiling cashier asked if I like to donate, I felt like the small boy in The Polar Express, craving the sound of the ringing bell...and the claps, too.
Yes, maybe it was never my fault that I was depressed, but I am in many ways flawed, just as you are. I am not innocent, just as you're not. The only difference is that the depressed feel the weight of their flaws far more intensely than those who are not depressed.
If anyone can legitimately claim to have lived A Jungian Life it would be Thomas B. (aka Tom) Kirsch. It wouldn't be an exaggeration to say that Jungian DNA oozes from his pores.
The holidays are one of the most stressful times of the year, but not for the reasons you may think. Many people get caught up and overwhelmed in the ...
Before I ate my sandwich, I removed a little pill bottle from my bag, shook two of the white oblong pills into my hand, and popped them into my mouth. I spat them back out. Something wasn't right.
When strength wins in the mind, it wins in the body. Inner strength literally becomes action. What we think becomes what we do, which eventually becomes who we are.
Expressing yourself directly, non-attackingly, and non-defensively gives you the best chance of being heard, having a meaningful conversation, and ensuring that the same interactions don't keep recurring endlessly in the future. So let's learn the steps...
How can we topple the negativity bias? How can we kick negative thoughts to the curb? Try one of these five ideas...
The mind is very much like the CEO of our life. It has almost total control of how we feel, our emotions and how we respond to the stimuli around us. This naturally spills over onto our personal relationships and overall health.
Let's face it -- we all feel entitled and even ungrateful at times. That's just part of being a human. It's especially part of being a small, growing person who is steadily working through a predictable series of tasks and milestones.
I didn't trust myself. I didn't believe in my own abilities. Most of all, I didn't believe that I deserved happy, fulfilling and loving relationships.
I noticed a woman eating by herself. She mostly looked at her iPhone. I concentrated on my eggs and short stack. A lot of people tell me they could never eat alone.
Refusing to acknowledge the impact of biology and innate gender differences on behavior within relationships seems to me to be unnecessarily shooting couples in the foot; why not discuss something that would likely resonate with them and would help them understand the evolutionary and biological explanations for each partner's behavior?
As a life coach, I spend a lot of time helping clients to pay close attention to their autopilot reaction to challenges in their lives. What you consider to be challenges and how you respond to them are defining factors in the quality of your life.
When I was in graduate school we were taught that individuals are either born with the magical quality of resiliency or not. These days we have learned that resiliency or the ability to bounce back from difficult situations and even how to handle tricky situations can be taught. Here's how...