I went through two of these major disasters in a row; jumping into the second one to numb the pain of the first. When the dust settled on the second crash, I barely recognized myself. Before I could even consider trusting another person, I had to rebuild my belief in my own judgement. It's still a daily practice, trusting that I can and will choose wisely.
No matter how closely parents try to manage their children's lives they can't possibly protect them from life's trials and tribulations. Indeed, parents shouldn't protect their children from those things. Parents should guide their children instead in how to effectively manage the challenges they'll face on their own.
I know that many of us allow fear to mark our souls and determine our future. What I intend to propose here is that instead of using those marks as arguments to justify not growing, they should serve the purpose of helping us embrace vulnerability as a valuable tool for resilience, courage and happiness.