Getting engaged is one of the most exciting moments is a person's life. The ring goes on, someone says "yes" and fingers crossed the other someone thought to hire a photographer to catch it all. Bubbly gets popped, phone calls are made, it becomes Facebook official, ring bling on Instagram, hashtags galore, and then before you can see the view from Cloud 9, "it" begins.
A good magician never reveals his or her tricks, and a wedding planner is a lot like a magician. There are some smoke and mirrors, and on the day of the wedding, the disasters that happen are fixed by the planner before the couple even notices. My favorite question to get from my clients when they return from their honeymoon is, "What went wrong that we didn't know about?" Here are my Top 10 answers.
Wedding planning can be a hectic adventure from the moment that ring gets slipped onto a finger. From picking the date, to selecting the venue and all of your vendors, it is a roller coaster ride that needs serious management. This is why you hire a planner, but you already knew I was going to say that.
"Our" hurricane season in the Northeast coincides with wedding season. Yet with all of the planning that goes on, even if there is a Plan B for outdoor weddings, there rarely is a Plan C for power outages and flooding. Sandy taught everyone in the wedding industry some powerful lessons, but the problem is, many people have forgotten them.
We spend a lot of time looking at neuroscientific research relating to how people work, and bridging the gap between that and I'm constantly amazed at how impactful the game changing insights we share are in making it easier for people to wake up excited on Monday mornings and feel fulfilled on Friday afternoons.
Since I wrote the article Seven Signs It's More Than Just Cold Feet and toured with my solo show Bad Bride I have received a number of emails from strangers asking for advice. I wanted to share one of those messages (edited for anonymity) and my reply because I think the conversation may be helpful for others that feel stuck in a relationship.