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Esther Perel

How To Take Control During A Midlife Crisis

Dr. Margaret Rutherford | Posted 07.12.2015 | Fifty
Dr. Margaret Rutherford

What do you do when someone you thought you knew like the back of your hand mutates into someone you don't recognize? The midlife crisis. Or that's what we tend to call it.

16 Ways To Keep Desire Alive In A Long-Term Relationship

Pamela Madsen | Posted 06.22.2015 | Fifty
Pamela Madsen

What if 'Happily Ever After After' was boring and didn't come 'naturally'? Have you noticed that nothing ever comes after 'Happily Ever After' in fairy tales? And monotony works fabulously for lots of people and yet the biggest problem couples and individuals have is the loss of desire.

What Esther Perel and Dan Savage Taught Me About Listening and Speaking

Buster Ross | Posted 06.09.2015 | Impact
Buster Ross

If we aren't concerned about getting credit for an idea, but simply getting it into our culture, we can just share our best thoughts without having to worry about building an audience or platform.

Here's One Reason Why People Cheat.. And Why Affairs Can Be So Traumatic

The Huffington Post | Rebecca Adams | Posted 05.23.2015 | Divorce

It's hard to quantify just how many people cheat, but with older estimates ranging from 40 to 76 percent, it's safe to assume there's a lot of infidel...

The Unsparing Genius of Esther Perel: A Fresh Perspective on Healthy Loving Intimate Relationships

Ira Israel | Posted 06.26.2015 | Healthy Living
Ira Israel

If there is one person currently spearheading the movement towards conscious loving relationships it is Esther Perel.

Why Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid Even In The Most Honest Marriage

Audrey van Petegem | Posted 05.07.2015 | Fifty
Audrey van Petegem

Freedom and independence in my marriage started with me not taking my husband's last name and has continued to be important to me. When I got married 29 years ago, I was insistent on the wedding vow passage where it states that when we join in marriage we still remain as two separate individuals.

Raising A Rock Star

Diana Whitney | Posted 12.08.2014 | Parents
Diana Whitney

As parents, I think we need to discover an erotic world in our house that remains separate from the children. The girls have no trouble entering their imaginary realms -- any place, any time of day.

The Psychology of Sexual Fantasy: Part 2

Cari Shane | Posted 07.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Cari Shane

One of the natural consequences of having the ability to imagine is also having the skills to use our imaginations to conjure up sexual fantasies. But, just because we can think them up, doesn't mean we're comfortable talking about them, or further still, acting them out.

The Psychology of Sexual Fantasy: Part 1

Cari Shane | Posted 07.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Cari Shane

Sexual fantasies are a natural byproduct of the human imagination. Yet, they make the majority of us uncomfortable enough that our fantasies about sex and sexual activities remain inside our heads.

Mindful Sex

Ira Israel | Posted 05.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Ira Israel

If you want to have a radically mindful, loving, connective, passionate, intimate experience that may or may not include non-procreative sex, you may want to consider some of the following advice.

Developing Feelings for Someone New?

Elisabeth Joy LaMotte, LICSW | Posted 04.05.2014 | Divorce
Elisabeth Joy LaMotte, LICSW

When a marriage is going through challenging times, it is extremely common to become consumed with thoughts about how there must be something out there that is better. These ideas can feel especially powerful if there is someone else in the picture.

Keeping Passion Alive

Dr. Gail Gross | Posted 01.23.2014 | TED Weekends
Dr. Gail Gross

To know yourself and your partner, and what drives you both emotionally is to move forward from consciousness instead of projection.

Make It Fit

Kim West | Posted 01.23.2014 | TED Weekends
Kim West

We're so worried about being either great parents or nothing like our parents that we're losing our ability to hold onto our SELF. Of course we don't want to emotionally damage our children, but at what cost?

Lies People Tell About Love And Lust

Michele Redmon | Posted 01.23.2014 | TED Weekends
Michele Redmon

All relationships go through phases of attraction but when all is said and done who wouldn't want a good bagel?

Why You Should Fire Your Marketing Department To Create Lasting Desire In Marriage

Dr. Corey Allan | Posted 10.04.2013 | TED Weekends
Dr. Corey Allan

2013-01-18-TEDplayvideo.jpgRelationships, especially close ones, present a problem (and we all face this problem). There's no way that you can be in a close, committed relationship, and not have your spouse discover who you really are.

Scheduling Sex: The Secret To A Passionate Marriage?

Laurie Gerber | Posted 10.04.2013 | TED Weekends
Laurie Gerber

2013-01-18-TEDplayvideo.jpgThe next time we have sex, we have to have it outside of our warm, comfy bed. For some of you, this may be exciting, but I happen to love my cozy bed. What consequence would work well for you?

The Keys To Love That Lasts? Get Connected And Then Separate

Lori Bell | Posted 10.04.2013 | TED Weekends
Lori Bell

2013-01-18-TEDplayvideo.jpgIn the heat of parenting, working, and creating a life together, what transitions a relationship from growing to thriving to long-term?

3 Ways To Put Desire Back Into Your Marriage

Audrey van Petegem | Posted 06.09.2014 | Fifty
Audrey van Petegem

I was recently on a short flight from Toronto to Chicago and sat beside a gentleman from France. I normally have casual chats with the person sitting beside me that either end as quickly as they start or we find a common interest and talk the whole flight. This chance encounter was different.

Do Men And Women Want The Same Thing From Sex?

Huff/Post50 | Debra Ollivier | Posted 07.05.2012 | Fifty

When people have an affair they say it was because they wanted to feel alive. And when people lack sex ... what they talk about is a sense of deadness. More than anything else, across all cultures, people want to feel alive.

The Secret Life of Secrets: What to Tell a New Love ... and When

Barbara Hannah Grufferman | Posted 03.28.2012 | Fifty
Barbara Hannah Grufferman

But, before you met this new love, you had a life, complete with friends, lovers, spouses, jobs, good decisions, bad choices and ... secrets. And then comes the inevitable question: Do you tell ... everything? And if so, when?

The Myth of Spontaneous Sex

Barbara Hannah Grufferman | Posted 03.12.2012 | Fifty
Barbara Hannah Grufferman

Why, you may ask yourself, are you not having wild, spontaneous sex now that you and your partner have been together for five, ten, fifteen, maybe twenty or more years?

Life After 50: How You And Your Partner Can Be A Couple Again

Barbara Hannah Grufferman | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Barbara Hannah Grufferman

There are several tools that every couple can use to keep their partnership fun, sexy, and alive. The key to success, though, is that both of you have to be on board. Here are a few that you can implement today.

An Affair To Remember: What Happens In Couples After Someone Cheats? Part One

Esther Perel | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Esther Perel

I already knew the marriages I was tracing in follow-up interviews had survived infidelity; now I wanted to assess the quality of that survival.

How To Mate In Captivity (VIDEO) | Esther Perel | Posted 05.25.2011 | Style

Every long-term couple knows that at some point the sex dies down. Couples therapist and author, Esther Perel, recently joined forces with Tango Mag t...

How to Help Girls Navigate Sexualization in the Media

Joyce McFadden | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Joyce McFadden

We're so afraid of having to go into the "naughtiness" of sexual detail that we're missing the simplicity of what our daughters need most: our blessing of their sexuality as normal and healthy.