If people do say no, they usually do it in ineffective ways that come with an excuse. For example, they might say, "I'd like to help but I'm really busy". The problem with this approach is it gives the other person an opportunity to continue to ask. They feel they have an opening. "Since you're busy this week how about next week?"
Many of my clients see me because they want to change. There's something in their lives that is so routine, yet so undesirable or unhealthy. Maybe it's a poor diet, dating toxic men or women or laziness. They seek change, yet it eludes them. Most behaviors, good and bad, become automatic or habituated over time. Here are my tips to form healthy habits that stick:
Some people live their lives as if they are passengers in an out-of-control car. Rather than doing something to control the situation -- by getting into the driver's seat -- they operate the car as passengers. They attempt to control what is out of their control, rather than what actually is within it. Here's how you can gain control when you feel like you have none:
How often have you met someone new and been won over by their charm? Or maybe you have a friend who always seems to get his or her needs met through you, yet always manages to find a way to make you feel special. Although these scenarios can be taken at face value, they can also be indicative of someone's narcissism at play. Although a small dose of narcissism can actually be healthy, there's a very fine line between what is normal and what is pathological.
A relationship can be stressful, even when both people live in the same area, so a little distance can really complicate matters. But just because it may be difficult is no reason to think it is impossible or doomed for failure. With the right preparation and mindset a long distance relationship can flourish.