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Love and Need: What's the Difference?

Jane Simon, M.D. | Posted 04.15.2015 | Healthy Living
Jane Simon, M.D.

In a long-term relationship in which one partner becomes chronically ill, the other person tends for the loved one in spite of having few of his own needs met. In the absence of love, a partner is more likely to abandon his mate.

8 Things Guaranteed to Happen to You in the New Year

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 02.21.2015 | Healthy Living
Deirdre Maloney

Enjoy the awesome stuff and make the most of it. And when the not-so-awesome stuff comes your way... allow it to happen, do your best to stay calm, deal with it, and know that it's on its way out, too.

How to Like Your Life More

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 01.24.2015 | Healthy Living
Deirdre Maloney

It's up to us to remember why it excited us, and to ask ourselves if it still does. It's up to us to ask ourselves how we can make it fun again, perhaps in a new way. And then it's up to us to do it.

I Now Pronounce You Happy

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 12.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Deirdre Maloney

The good news is that not every unexpected experience has been about escaping death. Instead, several have brought unexpected lessons for a happier life. Three recent lessons have proven themselves to be particularly happiness-building. I present them to you now..

Don't Worry... Be Crappy

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 11.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Deirdre Maloney

Over the years I've gotten pretty good at being pretty crappy at some things. To be clear, I hate being crappy at things. It's not my intention, it's frustrating. But I also know that sometimes it's just necessary.

Boys (and Girls) in Chairs: What's Love Gotta Do With It?

Andrew Morrison-Gurza | Posted 08.18.2014 | Gay Voices
Andrew Morrison-Gurza

Recently, I have been thinking a lot about love. I am what I like to refer to as a hopeless bromantic (just a guy looking for another guy looking for ...

The Only Advice You'll Need To Start Meditating

Eden Kozlowski | Posted 02.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Eden Kozlowski

Meditation isn't a one-size-fits-all kinda thing. I always recommend that you start somewhat loose. Commit without overcommitting or feeling like to you have to force it.

Is Mediation About Reaching the Same Result in a More Efficient and Economical Manner?

Mark Baer | Posted 08.31.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

My last article on mediation, titled "Should Divorcing Couples Who Mediate Be Talking Through Counsel?," was the first of a series of articles on medi...

How To Suggest Your Way To Success

Polly Campbell | Posted 08.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Polly Campbell

We are exposed to so many thoughts, ideas, beliefs, influences. When we take charge of our experience and choose those that actually help us, those that actually empower, motivate, engage, enliven, and inspire us, good things are bound to happen.

The Gifts of Giving

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 08.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

The greatest strength that we possess does not come from money, from fame, from influence, from glory, or from any of the trappings of power that most of us spend vast amounts of time and energy pursuing.

How To Get Exactly What You Want Out Of Life

Donna Labermeier | Posted 06.03.2013 | Healthy Living
Donna Labermeier

The only things holding us back are our repetitive thoughts of doubt and negativity which, with some determination, can completely turn around into repetitive thoughts of possibility, in which we have sole creative control.

Reduce Stress: Upgrade Expectations to Agreements

Soul Dancer | Posted 02.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Soul Dancer

Take a moment now to ponder your definition of a fact. How do you accept something as a fact? Do you take time to verify (through first-hand experience) a fact before you accept a fact to be true? How often do you check facts?

Faith, Fact and Fiction: Three Expectation Extravaganza Superstars

Soul Dancer | Posted 02.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Soul Dancer

As the season soaks or shrivels expectations, hopes blossom into blessed bliss or dissolve due to daily duress. With seasons officially changing, we enter into a unique 10 days where expectations rapidly climax or crash, awash in faiths, facts or fictions.

From Dreams to Dollars... Says Who?

Nancy Colier | Posted 10.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

We are constantly wishing for some larger entity that will reward us when we are good and punish us when we are bad. We so want to believe that some one, some thing, is in charge of us, and if we play by the rules it will all work out and we will get everything we want.

The LeBron Narrative and the Psychology of Sports Fans

Sam Sommers | Posted 08.25.2012 | Sports
Sam Sommers

However, take a more careful look at the past few seasons of LeBron. On paper, at least, he has actually done a lot of the things we claim we want our sports heroes to do.

How Do Placebos Relieve Pain?

Wray Herbert | Posted 03.27.2012 | Science
Wray Herbert

Scientists and doctors have been studying placebos for more than half a century. These inert "sugar pills" remain highly controversial, yet they are widely used in clinical treatment today -- especially in the area of pain management.

Advent: What's In The Box?

Christian Piatt | Posted 02.13.2012 | Religion
Christian Piatt

Never mind it's based entirely on fantasy. But the pleasure of anticipation must outweigh the disappointment of reality, or else we wouldn't keep doing it, right?

Great Expectations: Things Don't Always Turn Out as Planned

Beth Jones | Posted 05.25.2011 | Divorce
Beth Jones

A long-divorced friend was at a dinner party recently and she raised her glass to congratulate a woman who'd been separated for a month.

PBS's 'This Emotional Life': The Power Of Expectations

Sara Kenney | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Sara Kenney

Here's the good and bad news: research shows that we tend both to overestimate how much we're going to enjoy something AND how awful something is going to be. Why is that?

Doctor-Writers: What Are the Ethics?

Danielle Ofri, MD, PhD | Posted 05.25.2011 | New York
Danielle Ofri, MD, PhD

There is a veritable epidemic of doctor-writers out there. What is going on? Are doctors suddenly in the kiss-and-tell mode? What about confidentiality? Professionalism? HIPAA?