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Expectations

Are You Addicted to Thinking?

Christine Hassler | Posted 12.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Christine Hassler

Most of us are addicted to thinking. Our addiction tends to intensify when our mind perceives there is a problem to be solved. We want answers. We want resolution. We want to figure it out. Because we believe once we do, that everything will be better.

Great Expectations

Dr. Samineh I. Shaheem | Posted 12.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Samineh I. Shaheem

So many emotional benefits can be achieved by trying to align your expectation with realistic outcomes. But this can only be done if we get into the habit of looking for solutions rather than drowning in situations.

The Comparer's Prison

Rena DeLevie | Posted 12.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Rena DeLevie

I make the same typo every time I type one specific word: Comaprison. This is actually Comparison. But aren't they the very same thing?

Haunted by Perfection

Gary van Warmerdam | Posted 12.21.2014 | Healthy Living
Gary van Warmerdam

What is peculiar about an Image of Perfection is that it is nothing but a concept. From one point of view, it can be a vision that can inspire us to excel and accomplish great things. From a darker point of view, that same concept can be used as a club by the ego to emotionally beat us down into fear, doubt and self-sabotaging behavior.

The Expectations of Whys

Susie (Newday) Mayerfeld | Posted 12.15.2014 | Parents
Susie (Newday) Mayerfeld

Why is an accusing word. A word that is inherent criticism.After all, if everything was perfect, you wouldn't need to ask why. Have you ever heard anyone ask, "Why is the house so clean?" or "Why were the errands all run?" No. You haven't.

Want A Better Life? Embrace Chaos

Dr. Shamini Jain | Posted 12.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Shamini Jain

If we think our life stops when we have kids and a job, if we don't pursue our passions no matter how ridiculous they may seem, if we don't stretch ourselves to accommodate that rescue dog who needs a home or a family member or friend who needs our help, we miss out -- big time. Because what we get in return when we embrace this "chaos" is LIFE, in all its fullness and all its glory.

Meet My Good Fairy

Eve Beck | Posted 12.10.2014 | Fifty
Eve Beck

I awoke this morning at 5 a.m., with my Good Fairy nudging me... "Don't you think it's time to introduce me to all your new Huff Post 50 friends? No...

Vacuuming With Pearls

Megan McDonough | Posted 12.09.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan McDonough

Illusions of what a holiday should look like, how clean our house should be, the clothes our children should wear, the schools they should attend, the raise we should get at work, and how we think our boss should treat us all cause strife. Stress arises when our thoughts fight what is.

Letting Go Of 'Perfect' For A Puppy

Jessie Rosen | Posted 12.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Jessie Rosen

I have spent the past three years saying NO to my boyfriend, then fiancé and now husband's "Can we please get a dog?" I said it so many times that I just stopped saying it and created a look that communicated the same message. It was not a pleasant look.

Q&A With Arianna Huffington About Thriving During Expectation Hangovers

Christine Hassler | Posted 12.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Christine Hassler

As someone who has thrived through many unexpected events in life, I knew Arianna would have incredible insight on the topic of overcoming disappointment. I trust you will be as inspired and comforted by her words as I have been.

How Your Efforts To Be Productive Could Have The Opposite Effect

meQuilibrium | Posted 12.03.2014 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

Managing expectations often comes down to noticing your symptoms of overwhelm, identifying the expectation that's causing trouble and then flipping the expectation on its head.

Why Is It So Hard to Let Go of Your Ex?

Troy Byer | Posted 11.29.2014 | Divorce
Troy Byer

I do believe there are instances when titles and labels aren't necessary. However, when it comes to letting go and healing matters of the heart, I believe titles and labels are a must.

7 Things No Spouse Should Be Expected To Do

Winifred M. Reilly | Posted 11.29.2014 | Weddings
Winifred M. Reilly

This has nothing to do with being able to bake a soufflé, or adhere to a budget, or be cheerful about putting your cranky toddler to bed. The main thing no spouse can be expected to do is... live up to all of your dreams.

The KID Pro Quo

Richard Greenberg | Posted 11.29.2014 | Parents
Richard Greenberg

Over the years, I have observed that by expressing gratitude for the things around us, we have taught our children (and others) to appreciate the things we all have in life -- whether it's a meal, a beautiful sunset, a car that works or a spouse who is an excellent Mom.

'Marriage Is Not What I Thought It Would Be'

Kira Wyatt | Posted 11.18.2014 | Weddings
Kira Wyatt

The second year of our marriage was the hardest year of my life. Dan and I faced many challenges together and really struggled in our relationship. Though I'm much more hopeful about our future today than I was three months ago, I know we still have some work ahead of us.

8 Unrealistic Expectations Parents Have For Their Kids

Kimanzi Constable | Posted 11.15.2014 | Parents
Kimanzi Constable

Our children mess up. They lie to us, they're sneaky, they don't listen and they know how to push all the wrong buttons. I'm not telling you something you don't already know. However, despite what our kids do to make us mad at times, we do things that are probably just as irritating.

A Happiness Experiment: The Good, The Bad And The Miserable?

Janice Taylor | Posted 11.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Janice Taylor

I don't know about you (although I could make a guess), but I have super powers -- an innate ability, a real knack for the "miserable." I have the power to be in a bliss state, and in a New York minute, I can and do turn supreme happiness on its ear.

10 Steps To Have Better Post-Pregnancy Sex

Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright | Posted 11.11.2014 | Parents
Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright

The key to an erotic endeavor post-pregnancy is taking your time. Some mothers may feel traumatized by the experience of having been, quite literally, split wide open. The prospect of allowing anything -- small or large -- to enter the vaginal area can seem more than daunting.

7 Truths Women Are Afraid To Share

Traci Bild | Posted 11.10.2014 | Women
Traci Bild

Truth be told, we're exhausted. While it's easy to discuss how busy we are at work, the vacations taken over the summer, and which sports the kids are participating in this fall, it's not easy to talk about the stress, anxiety and guilt that surrounds our everyday existence as women.

There is More to Life Than Freshman Year

Susan Kaufman | Posted 11.08.2014 | College
Susan Kaufman

Sometimes you have to completely throw yourself into something and not look up until all you see is clear sky. I think expectations, snap judgments, and insecurities cloud the conscience; they keep us from living and investing in the present.

Realizing 'The One' Isn't

Rachel Bass | Posted 11.05.2014 | Women
Rachel Bass

Life can be the journey you want it to be, and it's ok to realize that the path you believed was your destiny isn't. In the moment, it's hard to comprehend, but when we work on ourselves, all we can do is put our faith in fate and believe that one day, "the one" is.

Homework Is Stupid and I Hate Everything!

Tamar Chansky | Posted 11.05.2014 | Parents
Tamar Chansky

We need to teach kids that a little bit of struggle is a normal and expected part of anyone's climb on the learning curve.

The Right Questions to Ask to Help Kids Take Charge of Back-to-School Fears

Tamar Chansky | Posted 10.28.2014 | Parents
Tamar Chansky

A better way. Instead of trying to talk your child out of their fears by rushing in with reassurances that aren't helping anyway, help your child come to these very good and reasonable conclusions you are offering, on their own steam, by flipping them around and asking the right questions.

The Differences Between The First And Second Child

Sarah Cottrell | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Sarah Cottrell

In many predictable ways having a second child has changed my mothering -- for example, increasing my forgetfulness while simultaneously decreasing my reservoir of patience. My second child has just reached his first birthday and with that celebratory occasion came a mountain of realizations for me about the differences between baby number one and baby number two.

I'm Homesick! What Parents Can Say to Their Anxious College Student

Tamar Chansky | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Tamar Chansky

The best things in life come out of change, and this is one that both you and your child have been working toward for many, many years!