Most people aren't great listeners. While someone is talking to them, they are more than likely thinking about what it is they are going to say when it is their turn. Sometimes, there is a game involved like: My Story is Better Than Your Story.
A lack of eye contact isn't a sign that a person lacks attention, empathy, or care; there are better and more effective ways of gauging these qualities in a person. Just because I can't hold your gaze doesn't mean I have a problem. But it's time to confront the fact that our culture does.
Whether you are waiting to cash-out or check-in to your hotel room, standing in line at Starbucks or a business networking event ... or just passing another in the hall, being ignored and feeling invisible has become commonplace.
I was sitting in a meeting yesterday and was given a reminder that felt like a slap in the face. It jarred me fully awake, shaking the dust out of a corner of my subconscious mind where I had stored this fundamental rule in the greatest job I have, as mom: It's not what you say. It's what you do.
"Good eye contact" is an important part of great communication. But how much is too much? When used correctly, direct eye contact can show a person is confident and attentive but too much can make them seem creepy or intimidating.
We live in a relatively disconnected world. Fortunately, that is mostly by choice. The fact is, we don't need to wait for an International Day of Connection or a global eye gazing experiment to choose differently. We can just do it. And that, my friends, is beautiful.
Strange but true, the "Scooby van" is now part of our political lexicon. Hillary Clinton herself is apparently to blame for this one, as this was the playful name she came up with for the van she used to get from New York to Iowa this week.
That's right, Valentine's Day will be here before you know it. 2014 is history. No one special to kiss under the mistletoe? If you faithfully follow these nine steps, you'll make up for it by getting plenty of lovin' from your new sweetheart in less than two months!
Ever feel queasy about going to an event where you don't know other guests? Talking to strangers does not come naturally to many people, but it's important to learn to do so. Social events are your opportunity to make new friends and business acquaintances.
Learning to solve problems and work with people can be the best way to exhibit class. Remember: Your people skills are your social skills. Define the problem in terms of needs. Brainstorm possible solutions. Select the solution that will best meet everyone's needs.
Every time I go to the theater and I find myself having to enter a row where there are people already seated, I experience the same moment of indecision: "How do I navigate this? Which way do I go in -- facing the stage or facing the people?"
What pops into your head when you think about how we impress others? Money? A prestigious career? A beautiful face? Being famous? If so, think about what could hide behind these top four impressive qualities.
Millennial-aged graduates must enter the career world armed with tools and strategies to distinguish themselves from the pack. I share this wisdom to help you find your way in the world-of-work so you can thrive.
Eye contact, along with the connection it may bring, can become a kind of mindfulness practice. We can notice what we're experiencing in our stomach or heart as we gaze into our lover's magical eyes. Maybe there's a delightful sense of warmth and expansiveness, or a fear of losing ourselves.