Just when you think the way has cleared for a smooth ride, challenges come up just to keep life and business interesting. How do you find success in the face of setbacks? How do you keep a great attitude and set yourself up to win?
I am willing to pay whatever the price might be, for being unabashedly me. There will be no shield, no barrier, no buffer between me and the real world. No one to blame for my failures but myself. And that my friends, is absolutely terrifying.
I'll simply ask, "What can I learn and how can I be better for it?" I think that this thing called life is all about that. Nothing is here to punish us, but to help us become the highest version of ourselves.
In the end, we can view failure as just this: a learning opportunity. A growth experience. A chance to re-focus on what truly matters in life: making an effort to go after your dreams, connecting authentically with yourself and others, and appreciating the many blessings you already have.
Being a leader is a complex task, but the defining moments of great leadership can be surprisingly simple. As a father of three kids under six, I've noticed some striking parallels between the morals of bedtime stories and the legacies of illustrious leaders.
I have been working for the past year with a collegiate team with realistic aspirations of winning an NCAA championship. They have been an amazing group of athletes who have struggled through challenges, stayed committed to their goals, and remained united as a team.
In sports, I was always driven to come back after failing. Why couldn't I do that in school? So I needed to figure out what I was going to do for the rest of my life. Would I just get a degree anywhere and work in the computer field, or should I follow my passion?
The incentives to acknowledge failure are also not there -- donors are more likely to give money next year to organizations who've succeeded and whether you are a government, a corporate, or a philanthropist, you don't want to see that your money was wasted when it's about saving lives.
While it is natural to reflect on upsetting experiences, brooding involves replaying the same scenes in your mind and reliving the emotional distress you felt at the time. Once you are in the habit of ruminating, the urge to brood can be easy to trigger and difficult to ignore.