Stop looking at it as saying no to their requests. See it as your chance to encourage them to say yes to the bigger blessings for their lives. The same source which sustains you can sustain them, but only if you'll get out of the way.
Sometimes, both sets of families become very emotionally attached to 'getting you' for your first married Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or Thanksgiving. If distance is a factor, someone's family has to 'win.'
If you're married, you've probably experienced lots of prodding about various aspects of your life and marriage. But let's face it, there is one topic that is front and center almost as soon as the nuptials are exchanged.
For some children, the question "How was your day?" is all they need to launch into a chatty description of every moment since you parted. But for others what often follows can be anything but comforting to a parent.