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Future Lawyers Should Be Screened and Trained for Empathy

Mark Baer | Posted 08.27.2015 | Divorce
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Mark Baer

Law schools must begin recognizing the damage that is being caused to interpersonal relationships and our overall society, due to the low EQ levels of those involved in the field of law and make a concerted effort to address this extremely serious problem.

When Divorcing, Beware of Meddlers!

Mark Baer | Posted 07.28.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I was recently contacted to potentially mediate a litigated divorce matter prior to trial, which is rapidly approaching. My name had been included on a list from the attorneys, along with two other mediators.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Final Part

Mark Baer | Posted 06.26.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Since this is the final article in this series, I am finally going to share the answer I gave the attorney colleague of mine who asked me the following question: "Any thoughts on how to make money as a family lawyer when you're not prepared to screw the other side?"

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part VI

Mark Baer | Posted 06.19.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

A great many of my family law attorney colleagues believe that mediation only works under such narrow circumstances, that almost no cases are appropriately suitable for it. They believe that mediation is only effective in family law cases under the following circumstances.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part V

Mark Baer | Posted 06.04.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I'm going to say it over and over and over again until my last breath -- "Mediation" that is handled as a "settlement conference," but with a "mediator" rather than a judicial officer is not mediation.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part IV

Mark Baer | Posted 05.19.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On July 10, 2011, Joan T. Daniels, Esq. posted the following comment on the listserv for the members of the Family Law Section of the Los Angeles Coun...

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part III

Mark Baer | Posted 05.13.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Part II of this series ended with the following question from an attorney colleague on the listserv for the Family Law Section of the Los Angeles Coun...

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part II

Mark Baer | Posted 05.04.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Except for the years I was in Juvenile Dependency court, where mediation was available for each case set for trial (but not presently, because that court system does not now have the funds to do so), I can count on the fingers of one hand the times when opposing counsel suggested mediation.

Is the King Solomon Story Really About Mediating or Judging?

Mark Baer | Posted 06.27.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

It's amazing how many ways Biblical text can be interpreted and the fact that the same people are willing to interpret the exact same text differently for their own selfish and self-serving purposes, as the need arises.

How Family Law Attorneys Tend to Think, Part I

Mark Baer | Posted 06.26.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On April 23, 2015, I read an article titled "Solid negotiation skills crucial for family lawyers," which I felt was an important read for both the public and my colleagues. I therefore shared the article over the social media and with the members of the listserv for the Family Law Section of the Los Angeles County Bar Association.

To Resolve or Manage Conflict, You Must Address the Actual Cause of the Problem

Mark Baer | Posted 06.21.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I recently had the most fascinating consultation with a gentleman who was interested in the possibility of my representing him as his lawyer.

Secrets of a Successful Divorce Mediation

Alison Patton | Posted 06.21.2015 | Divorce
Alison Patton

Sometimes spouses still can't hear or relate to one another's perspective, even after mediation, but as long as the mediator listens and can honor each spouse's feelings, that can be enough to get the parties to a resolution.

The State Bar of California Intends on Silencing Its Members

Mark Baer | Posted 05.07.2015 | Politics
Mark Baer

If the Bar does decide to require certain disclaimers in lawyer blogs, how does that impact previously published blogs over which the attorney does not have editorial control?

Litigation Should Come with a Warning

Mark Baer | Posted 04.01.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

When children are involved, parents often continue to have a relationship. Mediation can help to develop better channels of communication and to build new, appropriate relationships after divorce or separation...."

Don't Call My Stepkids 'Baggage!' Your Trash Just So Happens to Be My Treasure

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 03.23.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Do I mind that my stepkids are referred to as leftover "baggage?" You bet, I do.

Lawyer Paternalism Is A Very Serious Problem

Mark Baer | Posted 03.20.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

The "temporary incompetence" of clients due to their emotional state and the attorneys' paternalistic attitude toward clients create a lack of understanding on the part of both the attorney and the client. This is the legal equivalent of a ship that hits rocks, runs aground, veers off course, and possibly sinks.

How Do Smart People Divorce?

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 02.21.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Unwinding a relationship requires a careful undoing of emotional, physical and financial connections, and must be performed with extreme caution to achieve two intact individuals in the end.

How To Select The Best Mediator Is a Must Read for Everyone

Mark Baer | Posted 01.18.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

I cannot thank Mr. Peters enough for putting so much effort into writing such an outstanding book and highly recommend that every professional involved in dispute and/or conflict resolution and everyone involved in a dispute and/or conflict take the time to read this book.

10 Ways to Show Your Ex is Living With Someone

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 01.11.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

For someone trying to demonstrate that a former spouse is living with someone else in an effort to have an alimony obligation reduced or terminated, the job of collecting evidence is much easier today.

The Problem With Covenant Marriages and Fault-Based Divorce

Mark Baer | Posted 01.06.2015 | Divorce
Mark Baer

On October 30, 2014, I was contacted by a reporter, who asked if I could explain the Arkansas "covenant marriage" law to them. Among other things, if...

Is Coffee-Shop Divorce Coaching an Alternative to Couch Therapy?

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 01.05.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Would the comfy lounge chairs and soothing smell of lattes create the kind of inviting atmosphere, where people going through the most challenges conflicts of their lives, could open up and discuss their divorce?

What Do Marathons and Divorce Have in Common?

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 01.03.2015 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Most who have been through a divorce will tell you that it is a marathon, not a sprint. In order to get to the finish line without collapsing, it is helpful to have a coach guide you from beginning to end.

5 Reasons Why Alimony Should Be Reduced or Terminated if You're Living With Someone

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 12.27.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Alimony reform is on the rise, and there's simply no avoiding it. Nor should there be. One ripe area for change is the circumstance of cohabitation, its effect on spousal support, and the challenges surrounding the ability to prove it.

Halloween Trick or Treat Tips for Parents With Kids of Divorce

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 12.22.2014 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

You're now embracing your newfound life co-parenting, your children can and have a right to have a great night and create wonderful memories with their family and friends.

Unfortunately, Reviews on Yelp Cannot Be Relied Upon for Vetting Purposes

Mark Baer | Posted 11.27.2014 | Business
Mark Baer

I would be highly suspect in relying upon Yelp reviews in the future. I wish this were not true because it just makes it that much more difficult and confusing for customers to locate "real evidence" that is so essential to properly vet products and services.