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Dear Family Whisperer: 5 Steps Toward Combating Homophobia in Your OWN Family

Melinda Blau | Posted 11.17.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

He asked me recently, "Do you have a husband?" I said, "No," but it bothered me later. I have a life partner whom I've been with for over 20 years, a woman Nicholas calls "Aunt Barbara."

Dear Family Whisper: How To 'Convince' a 6-Year-Old to Cooperate

Melinda Blau | Posted 08.18.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

From the time he was born, your "spirited" little one has been -- and continues to be -- shaped by you, your husband and by whatever situations and surprises your family encounters.

Dear Family Whisperer: I Hated Sharing Birthdays With My Sister!

Melinda Blau | Posted 08.05.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

Today's parents plan joint birthdays for the same reason your mother did: It's convenient, cheaper and theoretically easier than throwing two parties. But their online ruminations suggest that they worry about making the right choice.

Dear Family Whisperer: We're All Nail Biters! What to Do?

Melinda Blau | Posted 07.15.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

When you see Hanna biting her nails, you're not just looking at your child. You're seeing your own childhood.

Dear Family Whisperer: I Hate Mother's Day!

Melinda Blau | Posted 07.08.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

When they wake you with a tray of pancakes and handmade cards this year, thank them and tell them how much you appreciate them. But also use the moment to usher in a new year of family consciousness in which everyone -- not just you -- is responsible for getting through the day.

Dear Family Whisperer: My Son Is Selfish!

Melinda Blau | Posted 06.24.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

Be explicit. When you hold your own "I" in check, help him notice: "Waiting on this line is so annoying. I feel like yelling at the lady behind the counter, but she's doing her best. Besides, I'm not the only one who has to wait."

Dear Family Whisperer: It's Terminal Cancer; Now What?

Melinda Blau | Posted 06.10.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

This a difficult and all-consuming trial for your family. You can't change your husband's diagnosis, and there's no magic bullet for the powerlessness you all feel.

Dear Family Whisperer: Help Me Cope!

Melinda Blau | Posted 06.03.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

Try not to typecast your boys. View them through a family lens: Your firstborn had you and his dad all to himself for more than half his life. Your second child came home to an already-formed household.

Dear Family Whisperer: Battling the Gimmes

Melinda Blau | Posted 05.27.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

Some parents fear that financial discussions "burden" children. But it's just the opposite. Earning and spending should be part of everyday conversation so kids grow up armed with awareness and information.

Dear Family Whisperer: Help for the Culturally Challenged

Melinda Blau | Posted 05.20.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

Families need to be with other families. A night out lets you enjoy adult interaction and allows your son to mix it up with kids his own age in a context outside of school.

Dear Family Whisperer: 'Sibling Prep 101'

Melinda Blau | Posted 05.15.2014 | Parents
Melinda Blau

Everyone's been telling your daughter how much "fun" her little sister will be, but all she sees now is an uncoordinated blob who cries a lot and takes up your time.