To Sam and Nia, I send my heartfelt condolences. I thank you for sharing your journey with the world and for allowing the world to grieve with you. While we join them in mourning the loss of the child they'd only just started to celebrate, I think there are many things we can take away from their very public experience.
My father was not an ordinary parent, and it was clear when I compared our life to my friends' lives that ours was not ordinary. And yet, as I've grown up and become a parent myself, I've realized that my father did some things very well -- and taught me some important lessons about being a good parent.