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Fear of Intimacy

Overcoming Fears of Intimacy

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 11.16.2015 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The fear of intimacy is based on the false belief of not being good enough. Believing this leads to fears of rejection and engulfment, which then caus...

A Woman Lost

Sophia Williams-Baugh | Posted 10.15.2015 | Women
Sophia Williams-Baugh

I know that my self-esteem decline interferes with me and my husband's intimacy. I know I don't feel attractive and that's why I'm not attracted. So I will continue to pray that I rediscover myself, that I rediscover my femininity, and that I gain the motivation to make myself feel and look beautiful again.

The Secret To A Healthy Relationship Is Totally In Your Control

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.19.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we take these steps, we may have thoughts telling us we are a fool, or we will just get hurt. Yet, being vulnerable actually makes us more likely to get what we want. It leads to healthier modes of relating and creates a more compassionate relationship.

The Lobster's Version of Love: Why Similarity Fosters Connections

Maria X. Liu | Posted 10.06.2015 | Women
Maria X. Liu

I tend now to be attracted to men who have succeeded in areas that I haven't but wanted to, and I find that men who are drawn to me tend to value the areas I'm accomplished in. This is both speaking to our differences as well as our similarities.

How to Overcome Fear of Commitment

Moshe Ratson | Posted 10.02.2015 | Healthy Living
Moshe Ratson

We all have friends who do not seem to stick to one partner on the pretense that the partner is not good enough for them. Gamophobia or fear of comm...

Why the People We're Attracted To Don't Like Us Back

Jennifer Twardowski | Posted 06.03.2015 | Women
Jennifer Twardowski

We want to make this person the center of our universe and really show them just how amazing they truly are... but this person just doesn't want to be with us. Honestly, I don't blame them.

Fear of Intimacy: The Real Reason Johnny Cash Went to "Jackson"

Margaret Hession | Posted 05.24.2015 | Divorce
Margaret Hession

Love is hard to find. And intimacy, often a subconscious feeling of closeness, is scary.

Are You Giving Up On Love?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.17.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

So be free in flaunting your romantic feelings. Connect with them on a daily basis. No matter what our inner critic tells us, there is nothing foolish about allowing ourselves to be lovesick. There may be more to lose, but there is also much more to live for.

Closeness Is Closer Than You Think

Jill P. Weber, Ph.D. | Posted 04.06.2015 | Women
Jill P. Weber, Ph.D.

Here are five steps to take to get more comfortable being yourself with others and deepening your relationships -- family, romantic, social and even professional.

How to Tell If You're in the Wrong Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.18.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

I'm a big believer in relationships. I don't often encounter couples for whom I think the outlook is hopeless. Granted, some relationships are bad for...

Are You Sabotaging Your Relationship?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.08.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Most of us treat love like an external force. It's something that happens to us, strikes us like an arrow or overcomes us like a storm. There is a problem with thinking of love this way, and that is that it can slant our focus outward.

5 Important Relationship Resolutions

Lisa Firestone | Posted 02.15.2015 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

So what can we do to give ourselves our best chance of maintaining that loving feeling we have when we first realize we are falling for another person? Here are five resolutions I believe all couples would truly benefit from taking on.

A Simple Question That Will Change Your Search for Love

Ken Page | Posted 02.04.2015 | Healthy Living
Ken Page

Often, our very future in finding love is determined by our small choices at these countless crossroads.

What No One Teaches Us About Love

Ken Page | Posted 12.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Ken Page

We do not have to rid ourselves of our fear of intimacy before we can have deeper love. It's the practice of intimacy that gets us past our fear of intimacy.

5 Excuses to Stop Making About Sex

Lisa Firestone | Posted 12.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Our sexuality isn't something we have to pack away, set aside and then go out of our way to uncover. It is something we can carry with us that makes us feel alive. Taking time for sex shouldn't be looked at as an indulgence or an inconvenience. It can be a way to reenergize or relax, reconnect or reestablish feelings of excitement toward our relationship.

The Perfect 'Imperfect' Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 08.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

I don't believe in soul mates. That doesn't mean I don't believe in true love or the idea that two people can find each other and be truly happy together for the rest of their lives. What I reject, rather, is the belief that there is only one person in the world for us.

One Surprising Reason We Sabotage Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can learn what drives contemporary behavior by shining a spotlight on our past. In doing so, we're not dwelling on what happened to us or letting it rule our lives. Rather, we are taking control of our present.

5 Ways We Push Away Relationships (And What To Do About It)

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Is your primary intent in being in a relationship to get love, or is it to share your love with your beloved? If it's to get love -- due to your own self-abandonment -- then your challenge in attracting your beloved is to learn to love yourself and share your love.

5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can start challenging ourselves to accept love -- to return a loving look, rather than turning away in embarrassment. We can approach our defenses with curiosity and compassion and slowly start to change our part of the equation that limits our capacity for love.

5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When you love yourself, you are better equipped to act with integrity in your relationships. You become a person you respect, and you give your relationship its best chance at survival.

Are You Vulnerable To An Emotional Affair? Take This Test To Find Out

Pamela Dussault | Posted 03.18.2014 | Divorce
Pamela Dussault

If you answered "No" to any of the odd-numbered questions (1,3,5,7) you are highly susceptible to having an emotional affair.

How to Be Naked

Kate Bartolotta | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kate Bartolotta

I would gladly trade a lifetime's worth of meaningless orgasms for one long, genuinely naked conversation.

8 Secrets of Undesired Singlehood

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

It is scary to take a chance and go for what we want and compete, but when we do, we most often find it is well worth it to face our fears. We end up with a stronger sense of self, and we increase our chances of creating a relationship with the partner we really desire.

When Should You Give Someone 'The Benefit of the Doubt'?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Trust the early signs of someone being resistant and fearful of intimacy -- of using lateness, a judgmental attitude and emotional distance to push you away.

Intimacy: One Woman's Search for the Relationship Holy Grail

Jennifer Nagy | Posted 11.19.2013 | Women
Jennifer Nagy

A funny thing happened. It was a classic "boy meets girl" scenario, but with a unique twist: the boy in this scenario was moving to London, England in just over two weeks.