I have learned over the years though that 'nice' is good, but 'too nice' is not. 'Too nice' is the person who doesn't like to ruffle feathers. 'Too nice' is the person who is afraid to set boundaries. 'Too nice' is the person who is afraid to say no. 'Too nice' is the person who I used to be (and still am, sometimes).
I know that my self-esteem decline interferes with me and my husband's intimacy. I know I don't feel attractive and that's why I'm not attracted. So I will continue to pray that I rediscover myself, that I rediscover my femininity, and that I gain the motivation to make myself feel and look beautiful again.
Our sexuality isn't something we have to pack away, set aside and then go out of our way to uncover. It is something we can carry with us that makes us feel alive. Taking time for sex shouldn't be looked at as an indulgence or an inconvenience. It can be a way to reenergize or relax, reconnect or reestablish feelings of excitement toward our relationship.