Even if my cancer does return and even if it does eventually kill me, I won't spend the rest of my life in fear. And maybe someday I'll actually believe what I've just written. I'm not there yet, but I'm working on it.
Listen to yourself all day today -- are you an uplifting, inspiring, positive person to be around? Or you point out what is wrong with everything? Are blaming, judging and criticizing your default patterns? Do you focus on people's weaknesses? If this is you -- STOP IT!
Is it too late to get your deposits back? Don't marry the wrong person. Throw a party instead, host a reunion, feed the hungry. Celebrate the awesome achievement of choosing happiness over fear! Let others manage their own reactions, and if they want to judge you, let 'em.
In life, there are only a handful of people who can say they have known you for your entire life. Among them, of course are your parents, but also those who stand beside you, your comrades, your siblings.
So, during my gazillion plus one time watching Frozen this week, it finally hit me. Elsa and Anna have not only captured the hearts of millions, these miraculous little girls portray the very core of what has taken me 38 years and a battle with breast cancer to discover.
If I'm to nurture a more fulfilling life based on authentic connections with a broader circle of family and friends, I believe there are a few challenging questions I need to ask myself before deciding to end a relationship or push someone away.
The people who inspire me most are those who have a few dents in their armor -- those who clawed their way to a place of inner strength, redemption, and hope. Rarely do we remember fame and celebrity, but when we witness inner fortitude, it resonates and is transformative.
I have many students who have struggled with this problem. All of them have been able to conquer it with some success. Most important though is consider where you are and what you are trying to say. There is a time and place for everything.
We are so busy worrying about what will be in the future or living in the past. True joy, peace and contentment come from being alive and present in the current moment. It is all we have and it is all there really is.
I am finding that most of us cannot articulate the nature of our worry. For many, we worry that we're going to be afraid. We worry about worry. Worry and fear become the muddy ruts of habit, our baseline before the day begins.