Women are definitively a minority and we are, by default, everything that goes along with that label: belittlement, discrimination, treated with hostility covertly and overtly. However, women are beautiful. All women are beautiful.
Being compassionate with yourself is all about giving yourself the loving truth. Not sugar coating or denying that a change is needed, but delivering the message in a way that you would talk to your child or to your best friend -- with love.
Listen. I hear you. You're a few pounds heavier than you like. I completely understand how you feel. Isn't it amazing we can see the beauty in our best friends, sisters, mothers, and aunts without the slightest thought to their flaws... but can obsess for hours on our own imperfections?