One of the main factors that sets great relationships apart from merely good ones is the depth of emotional intimacy. There are, of course other factors that contribute but authenticity, vulnerability and deep emotional connectedness are right up there at the top of the list.
Following these guidelines won't guarantee a successful result every time, but doing so will make that outcome more likely. Non-reactive listening and non-blaming speaking are learned skills that can be cultivated with practice.
Instead of looking at your day as an endless to do list, what if you started each day with a question: "At the end of the day, how do I want to feel?" After you ponder that one, you can ask yourself, "What will make me feel that way?"
To me, the vulgarity in the novel was not its language. What truly makes me cringe -- the most vulgar and obscene things in life -- are humanity's ubiquitous displays of unrelenting greed, hatred, intolerance, and the unquenchable need of people to make war.
I'm pledging allegiance to my feelings of admiration, respect and love this Yom Kippur, asking forgiveness for all the times I let the moment of truth die and promising to do better this year... especially to those who matter most to me.
We all have many parts to our personalities and getting those parts to work in harmony is the essence of emotional health. Leave out certain voices and you're in for strikes, rebellions, hypocrisy, and, eventually, brutal attacks.
You are the only person with the power to control yourself. Being you is more than just your favorite color or your favorite food, it's about becoming the person you are capable of being. Creating the real you can be a life-long journey.
For some children, divorce calls into question the very nature of parental love. The child may think to himself, "If my parents can decide they don't love each other anymore, maybe they can stop loving me."
When attorneys, mediators and others are involved in the process, their concepts of fairness may well differ from those of one or both of the parties and from those of the other professionals involved.
Normally we are looking through the lens of our prejudices and needs, through past regrets or future hopes, but without these we find each moment is infused with uniqueness, that everything is constantly fresh, new and unknown.
It's hard to feel connected to others. It's painful. It's often much easier to retreat into our daily routines and busy ourselves with the mundane activities of our lives. And we need to do that. Don't get me wrong. But every now and then, we have to ask ourselves if we've retreated too much.
We crave real portrayals of people like ourselves: people who can be confused, get angry, celebrate joyous moments and sometimes feel rejected and unloved. James Gandolfini made Tony Soprano, the Jersey mob boss, one of us.
I have to admit almost all have focused on the caregiver. We can feel contentedness, pride and joy. We can also feel sadness and loneliness. The list goes on and on. But how does the person with dementia feel?
Controlling your attention -- becoming more able to place it where you want it and keep it there, and more able to pull it away from what's bothersome or pointless -- is the foundation of changing your brain, and thus your life, for the better.
Listening to the inner alarm takes deep courage, especially when we are in love with a dream and when that dream involves other people or a living creature. Broken dreams hurt -- even when they don't fit into the life we envision for ourselves.