She's the one who excitedly talks about the get-together all week leading up to it and sends cute texts about how she "can't wait" to hang out. When you walk into the restaurant, one of the other gals tells you she's not coming, since she's tired/kids are sick/husband is working late.
My French Creole features speak to a long history of miscegenation: green eyes, skin the color of a white peach and a sharp Puritan nose to match my thinly drawn Vermillion lips. Still, my blackness is always in question because of my lightness, especially among my darker sisters.
Laugh a lot, cry a little, and continue to make the memories of a lifetime. Always choose to live by your rules, and let others live by their own. This is your time, your moment, your life, and you're going to be great. So be proud of yourself, you're surviving on your (almost) own for the first time in your life.
The takeaway: it sucks. And sometimes it really sucks.
My Facebook feed is filled with all types of people who range in experiences, maturity, lifestyle, opinion, and willingness to share. For the most part, I enjoy hearing about people's lives. But there's always somebody on your list that goes a little too far. Sometimes that person can be you. Here are six things that you should never write about on Facebook and the reasons why.
You can still dream together, talk about getting older together and even hope to move near each other again and then reminisce about that again a week later.
But if you're anything like me, you may be shifting gears as part of your midlife assessment. Are you changing careers? Getting divorced? Moving? And though those tried-and-true friendships are invaluable in so many capacities, you may be feeling an itch to engage with like-minded folks who are also embracing big change.
A lost sister is a void that cannot be filled -- you can't replace a soulmate.
If you've landed yourself in a brand new city without a single friend to accompany you, never fear. Here are seven tried-and-true ways to make friends in a new city, which I've gathered from casting my own roots in New York City, Los Angeles and Seattle.
When you make the decision to get divorced, it's interesting who you choose to confide in at first. It's not always your closest friends, per se. It's like a clown car of people who have the right strengths, views, open arms, who lack judgment and just make sense for some reason you can't explain at all.
Friendships. Some abide through thick and thin. No matter what happens in your life. No matter if you go through a time when you are not all that easy to love. That friend is sticking around.
There are days when I manage to overcome these obstacles and cram in some quality phone time. But generally speaking, it isn't going to happen. Mea culpa. Text me, maybe?
What struck me as I read through these essays was how often the women were left behind by their sisters without a warning. Frustration rather than closure played a large role in many of the stories, and the authors were subsequently expected to puzzle out what went wrong.
I have had the privilege of knowing countless women throughout my life. Not just in passing while superficially connecting through a fleeting event or...
As I've been focused on what it means to deepen friendships, it reminded me today that I also need to keep talking about how to start friendships! If you're in a place where you need to be gathering up people to befriend, then here's a quick list of my best advice for creating new friendships!
I hope that what I tell my daughter will also be true for me, so I keep my head down and assure myself that this will pass in time.