Know that divorced folks are hurting in ways that may never resolve despite their best efforts to move on. Here are some tips for not shooting yourself in the foot around those who've dismantled their marriages and lives.
I haven't met a woman yet without at least one "sisterhood wound" that has impacted her trust of other women. Some of us trust too easily and let the wrong women in too close and get hurt. Others have little to no trust and so let in a few to none or keep old friends around mistaking years known for intimacy and trust -- and so miss out on true sisterhood.
Just as one would never go into a marriage with the expectation of it leading down that bumpy road of divorce, the same applies to friendships. You go into friendship eager to forge what you hope will be a lifelong bond with that person upon whose shoulder you can lean, let down your guard and be as silly as any nonexistent law allows.
As I grew up I realized it is less important to have a ton of friends, and more important to have real ones instead.
Now that we're midlifers, the whole friendship thing is a little trickier to master. Chaotic schedules and stressful careers leave little time to nurture a new friendship between people with no shared history. That's just the way it is as you grow older.
Today we have more outlets than ever that help us attract possible comrades to share our specific life interests. Online groups for those fresh in new cities boast dozens of activity options where you can join fellow newbies in various adventures.
Most women find it difficult to make time for friends amidst the unrelenting demands of work and family. It's not that we don't want to see our friends, it's just that we are so busy.
8 years ago I graduated from Durham College in Ontario, Canada. This year, I was asked to return and teach for the exact same program I graduated from, Advertising. At this year's convocation, I was asked to be the guest speaker. Here is my speech.
For maybe the first time ever, I feel a multitude of generations of women behind me, around me, supporting me now. And the scars we collect, these stories and tattoos, these wrinkles and grey hairs... they all have a reason.
It took a couple of dry sticks. And there was fire. A great invention for our survival and thrival. That's what we do. Create fire. Play with fire. C...
This film -- Kate & Lily -- is about two friends, Kate and Lily. It's about how women perceive one another and how we can be simultaneously so evil and so sweet.
By teaching your kids early on the importance of these traits, chances are they'll avoid those false friendships and hold tight to the ones that truly matter.
I have met many people over the span of my life. Most of these people I call friends. But there are different categories of friends. Allow me to break it down.
Tip of the week: Know what you can afford and don't be afraid to say no. You can always say yes later when your financial planning pays off with some big dividends.
In other words, what would happen if you brought the two of us -- an Israeli and a Palestinian -- together on neutral ground. Could we overcome bitter lines of division and mistrust by engaging each other in open, honest, face-to-face dialogue?
Ladies' nights and last-minute dinner plans were easy to accommodate when neither of us had a significant other, but the second a man entered my life I'd become flaky and unreliable, always canceling plans if it meant getting to see my boyfriend.