As a friendship expert who has been thinking all things friendship for nearly seven years, here are the real tips. You do these, assuming you're a decently nice and healthy person, you will have friends. Promise.
Have you ever had that friend who made you feel less than? The one who drained your energy and whose presence made you feel sick to your stomach?
Enlisting my team for support was the biggest gift I could have given myself during the labor and birth of my son Oliver. It felt as though all the support I've provided as a doula over the past years was shown back to me 100-fold.
My advice is just let it happen. Date. Take your time or jump right in head first. Follow your own feelings and don't let your "everyone" people look down their noses at you with their "I'm only asking out of love" comments.
I have a vision of building the world, of inspiring a new way of thinking, of raising human consciousness. This is a big dream -- too big to accomplish on my own. That's why I built my ark and populated it with the best, most inspiring friends I could find.
An acquaintance once told me that exes who remain in communication with each other are either f*cking or fighting, and while it does seem to be true in many cases, I think there's a third way.
So how do you determine whether or not these individuals are adding to your quality of life? Believe it or not, the true value of a relationship can be quantified using this simple equation:
Friendships should strengthen our peace of mind and contribute to our inner harmony. Consider taking these six steps the next time you sense toxicity brewing within a relationship and rediscover the joys of truly positive energy.
Know that divorced folks are hurting in ways that may never resolve despite their best efforts to move on. Here are some tips for not shooting yourself in the foot around those who've dismantled their marriages and lives.
I haven't met a woman yet without at least one "sisterhood wound" that has impacted her trust of other women. Some of us trust too easily and let the wrong women in too close and get hurt. Others have little to no trust and so let in a few to none or keep old friends around mistaking years known for intimacy and trust -- and so miss out on true sisterhood.
Just as one would never go into a marriage with the expectation of it leading down that bumpy road of divorce, the same applies to friendships. You go into friendship eager to forge what you hope will be a lifelong bond with that person upon whose shoulder you can lean, let down your guard and be as silly as any nonexistent law allows.
As I grew up I realized it is less important to have a ton of friends, and more important to have real ones instead.
Now that we're midlifers, the whole friendship thing is a little trickier to master. Chaotic schedules and stressful careers leave little time to nurture a new friendship between people with no shared history. That's just the way it is as you grow older.
Today we have more outlets than ever that help us attract possible comrades to share our specific life interests. Online groups for those fresh in new cities boast dozens of activity options where you can join fellow newbies in various adventures.
Most women find it difficult to make time for friends amidst the unrelenting demands of work and family. It's not that we don't want to see our friends, it's just that we are so busy.
8 years ago I graduated from Durham College in Ontario, Canada. This year, I was asked to return and teach for the exact same program I graduated from, Advertising. At this year's convocation, I was asked to be the guest speaker. Here is my speech.