How you treat your aging mother is an example to your own children on how to treat you as you enter you final lap, a passage that can be physically painful and lonely. Be consistently grumpy around your old mom and your kids may do the same when you are their old mom- and stick you in a nursing home far away from your grandchildren.
Mother's Day is here and it's my first one without Mom. My mother, Evelyn Levine, died on April 19, and it was a huge personal loss as well as the end of an era. She was the last of the Greatest Generation in her family. More importantly, she was an amazing mother, grandmother and great-grandmother, as well as my biggest fan.
I've never felt so conflicted as I did when I packed up 40 years worth of family possessions from the only home I ever knew. Watching your parents age and being the one on the front lines of denial -- I'm not moving, I don't need help, etc. -- slaps you awake into a reality no one wants, or is prepared, to face.