Finding oneself by serving others may seem paradoxical. The word "service" has gone out of style. Today it often conjures up images of military service, or customer service. Its broader meaning refers to kindness, acknowledgement, making a difference. A "life of service" might include any or all of these:
It is possible to find yourself again and rekindle your joy when life takes a detour. Above all, it's a chance to shed unwanted layers, let go of what no longer serves you, and highlight the things that truly make you happy. Life ending up in a different place than you ever imagined can have a happy ending!
So, for those of you just entering college, take this experience for all its worth. Be joyful for those "This is how I could spend the rest of my life" moments when you find yourself a new hobby or passion. And, equally as important, be grateful for those "I don't think this is right for me" moments because realizing what's wrong for you is as needed as realizing what's right.
I don't know how to identify myself. I can't say that I am a writer or an artist or any other neatly defined, entirely cohesive entity. But my writing belongs to me. When I listen to my words, I hear the sound of me. And if I look at all the words that are now outside of my head out there in the real world, sometimes I can even see "what" I am.