You don't flirt with a woman in public wearing headphones. Or a woman working out at the gym (or outside a gym). Or one working in a cafe. Or one who's working a service job at an establishment you frequent
The biggest benefits of online dating are the ability to deliberately craft a great first impression (that can't be messed up by nerves) and to stretch yourself to date differently than you have in the past.
"Who cares? It's our kitchen on a Monday night. I love you and I want to touch you and have you be excited about that. Is that so wrong?" He is starting to back away, the grooves on this path worn in a rut we fall into so easily.
Trader Joes.That bastion of affordable wasabi peas, almond milk and hemp oil. That innovator of quality ingredients for everyday low prices. That hire-er of a potpourri of gorgeous men tricked out in Reyn Spooner Hawaiian Hula Luau shirts who flirt with me. (Not the shirt, the men.)