How to Overcome Your Unwillingness to Forgive
It's easier to forgive others if we can find some meaning, some wisdom, some benefit born of the assault and the suffering we experienced.
It's easier to forgive others if we can find some meaning, some wisdom, some benefit born of the assault and the suffering we experienced.
David Wilson | Posted 04.09.2012
Life happens. My question is: How can we find true and lasting forgiveness? Can you look past the sometimes rapidly-imposed judgments and attempt to see through our eyes why things happened as they did?
Anne Naylor | Posted 04.08.2012
To open your heart and honestly express your mistakes, fears or doubts seems counterintuitive. And yet, when you do so, you touch and awaken other hearts to do the same.
Wendy Strgar | Posted 04.06.2012
Many of us don't recognize how we hold our future hostage to the pain of our past. We don't understand that healing the past happens in the here and now.
Amy Chan | Posted 04.22.2012
Closure is a process, and often a long, drawn out one. And during that process, the only things that heal are time, reflection and going through your emotions.
Oren Wunderman | Posted 02.11.2012
The best thing that anyone of us can do with an action or statement that we now regret is to forgive ourselves, learn from our experience, apologize sincerely (if doing so is appropriate and available), and do better next time.
Nikki Luongo | Posted 01.07.2012
We all have those moments where we wish would just slam the door and never deal with that person again, but it's just not that simple.
David R. Hamilton, Ph.D. | Posted 01.06.2012
It's not about letting someone off the hook. Forgiveness is about freeing ourselves so that we can move forwards in our lives and not continue to suffer.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 12.16.2011
You will not be able to forgive your spouse until you fully take responsibility for your participation in the relationship issues that may have contributed to the infidelity.
Amy Chan | Posted 12.05.2011
Love is being the best person you can be, every day. It is waking up and making the choice to act and live with love, honesty, loyalty, selflessness and commitment.
Deborah Moskovitch | Posted 08.15.2011
Forgiveness and letting go are topics that often arise in my divorce consulting practice.
Heide Banks | Posted 11.17.2011
One spring day, 21 years after Liz's assault, she received a letter in her mailbox from her rapist. He was making amends as part of a 12-step program for alcoholism, and he was asking her for forgiveness.
Alina Tugend | Posted 11.17.2011
Are we in the wrong if we withhold forgiveness from someone who sincerely requests it? Not necessarily.
Anne Naylor | Posted 11.17.2011
What purpose does forgiving serve? And how do you forgive? The "how" was what I asked myself some 16 years ago, as I went into my divorce feeling emotionally distraught.
Vaishali | Posted 11.17.2011
How is it that all the great spiritual sayings can fit on a bumper sticker? The reason is that Universal truth is simple and straightforward.
Rev. Candace Chellew-Hodge | Posted 05.25.2011
I hated him -- with every fiber of my being. It's the first time I think I really understood on a fundamental level what the Bible calls a "perfect" hatred. But, eventually, I had to forgive him.
Anne Naylor | Posted 11.17.2011
Peace starts at home, and home is where the heart is. When you listen to your heart, your inherent value, values and love, you touch into the peace that is always present within you.
Barb Rogers | Posted 11.17.2011
We must tell ourselves when circumstances arise that it's not always about us. That helps us step back, attempt to look at things from a new perspective and really think before we act or react.
Holly Sidell | Posted 05.25.2011
While you may not like or agree with how you were raised, or may be angry that you aren't accepted for who you are by your parents, remember that they are also people with feelings and their own history.
Anne Naylor | Posted 11.17.2011
Challenges give us choices and choices are produced by becoming aware of the larger picture that is present. In my experience, awareness comes through relaxation, love, and a willingness to be open.
Anne Naylor | Posted 11.17.2011
Whatever you lose in the course of your life, there is something to gain. You may go through a period of "darkness," and at a certain moment, you may be able to see "light at the end of the tunnel."
Anne Naylor | Posted 11.17.2011
Whether you are with your loved one this Valentine's Day, or on your own, you can be celebrating Divine Love. What is Divine Love? How it any different from regular old love? And how can you celebrate it?
Anne Naylor | Posted 11.17.2011
Your sense of status, place in life and well-being may have come to depend upon a level of income and expenditure. Expectations dashed, disappointment and financial loss can make for deep-seated misery.
Gabrielle Bernstein | Posted 05.25.2011
For the majority of my life, navigating romantic relationships was like trying to reverse the Titanic. My past romances were filled with tons of mini-dramas and fearful illusions.
Anne Naylor | Posted 11.17.2011
Vows can be seen as the bridge between romantic love and the love that lasts a lifetime. For better or worse, such commitment can lead to understanding, compassion and appreciation of your loved one.
Walter E. Jacobson, M.D. | Posted 05.29.2012