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Foster Adoption

Adoption Is Not Second Best

Danielle Helzer | Posted 10.07.2016 | Parents
Danielle Helzer

I found my kids when I needed them and when they needed me. I wanted to tell this woman, a near stranger, that my kids: They aren't second best; adoption is not second best. For us, it was the best.

3 Tips for New Foster-Adoptive Parents

Danielle Helzer | Posted 04.19.2017 | Parents
Danielle Helzer

Four years ago, my husband and I started our journey as foster parents with a set of unrealistic expectations. We didn't know any foster parents. We f...

Understanding Reactive Attachment Disorder

Danielle Helzer | Posted 03.29.2017 | Healthy Living
Danielle Helzer

Parenting kids with attachment trauma feels like driving in a foreign country where the road signs are illegible, a familiar process is suddenly uncomfortable, and fellow drivers are honking, flipping you off, and shouting that you're doing it wrong -- despite your best efforts to do it correctly.

Complaints About Your Child's Adoption Have to Stop

Madeleine Melcher | Posted 06.02.2015 | Parents
Madeleine Melcher

Before you make the choice to complain about the adoption of your child or someone asking you about it -- think again. Your child is watching you and will follow your lead. Not only will you define your child, but also yourself in his or her eyes. What do you want your words and actions to say to your child?

Dear New Momma (Through Adoption)

Madeleine Melcher | Posted 06.02.2015 | Parents
Madeleine Melcher

Maybe you just came from the hospital with this little being snuggled to your chest, or perhaps you recently finalized with an older child who has never truly known "the forever" of family... either way, you are mommies. Real ones. No one can take that from you.

I'll Keep That In Mind

Stephanie Giese | Posted 02.07.2015 | Parents
Stephanie Giese

I do not owe you an explanation, and I think anger is a healthy reaction to what this child has endured in his very short lifetime. As you huff and pull your children away from our "bad example," I will roll my eyes and remind myself that you do not know what you do not know.

How I Earned the Privilege of Being Called 'Mommy' By Our (Adopted) Son

Kari Wagner-Peck | Posted 01.31.2015 | Parents
Kari Wagner-Peck

I stopped asking him to because it seemed more important to him not to call me mommy than it was for me to hear it.