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7 Things You Should Never Say To A Foster Parent

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 02.07.2017 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

They are meant as words of comfort and words of support. However, so many times, the words are hurtful, instead. During my fifteen years as a foster...

Is Adoptive Mom Guilt A Thing?

Kathleen Dennehy | Posted 01.09.2017 | Parents
Kathleen Dennehy

Almost every morning, some inner alarm wakes me up 30 minutes before anyone else. Determined to not wake the gently snoring Canada, equal parts imposs...

Why The Holidays Might Be A Sad Time For Foster Children

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 12.02.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

So many dates on the calendar, so many reasons to celebrate, so many different ways. Christmas, Hanukkah, New Years, Kwanzaa; these are times that can be extremely difficult for many foster children.

How Foster Parenting Has Changed Me

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 10.25.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

“But why do you do it? Why do you take care of so many children?” It was a question I had been asked a great deal of late. Recently, I had been do...

Kristen Bell, Kathryn Hahn, and Others Bond With Parenting Foster Youth at Raising Baby

Matt Hartman | Posted 09.29.2016 | Impact
Matt Hartman

Jordana Brewster, Kristen Bell, Kathryn Hahn, and Lindsay Price arrive at Alliance of Moms' Raising Baby (Photo by Rochelle Brodin/Getty Images for Al...

Empower Your Teen | Posted 06.08.2016 | Parents

Statistically, I am supposed to be dead, in jail, or homeless. At 14, I'd been kicked out of so many foster homes that it became a game to me. I acted out because I didn't trust anyone, and I didn't expect that to change any time soon. So, how come I didn't end up as yet another statistic? ONE. CARING. ADULT.

What You May Not Know About Children in Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 06.03.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

It was late, and I was at my desk in my library, doing some writing for an upcoming book. Earlier that afternoon, we had taken in three foster childr...

Bring Me Hope: Foster Parenting Through Tough Times

Terra Trevor | Posted 05.05.2016 | Impact
Terra Trevor

For older kids who have experienced much loss, those losses and abandonment issues will surface at holidays, on anniversaries, and at other times when we least expect it. Marker events bring out an old sadness and it gets mixed up in our current family life, and masked sadness often surfaces as anger.

3 Tips for New Foster-Adoptive Parents

Danielle Helzer | Posted 04.20.2016 | Parents
Danielle Helzer

Four years ago, my husband and I started our journey as foster parents with a set of unrealistic expectations. We didn't know any foster parents. We f...

What I Wish Others Knew About Love and Children in Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 04.12.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

In my home, there is no difference. There is no difference between biological, adoptive, or foster child. There are no labels, either. They are all ...

Understanding Reactive Attachment Disorder

Danielle Helzer | Posted 03.28.2016 | Healthy Living
Danielle Helzer

Parenting kids with attachment trauma feels like driving in a foreign country where the road signs are illegible, a familiar process is suddenly uncomfortable, and fellow drivers are honking, flipping you off, and shouting that you're doing it wrong -- despite your best efforts to do it correctly.

The Power of Forgiveness

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 03.25.2016 | Religion
Dr. John DeGarmo

One evening, as we were getting ready to sit down for dinner, my wife and I took a phone call from our child welfare agency. At that time, we had a p...

6 Things I Wish You Knew About Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 03.16.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

In no way, and in no fashion am I a saint, and I believe that foster parents from all over would echo that sentiment. We are not saints. We become tired, worn down, and exhausted. We have our own frustrations and disappointments. There are times when we succeed, and there are times when we experience failures.

My Grief Is Real: The Tears of a Foster Parent

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 03.03.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

Four year old Sally and her six month old sister Jessie had been with us for four months; our first placement as foster parents. Placed into foster ca...

The Question of Prayer for Foster Parents

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 02.24.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

I can't do it by myself. I can't be a father to 50 plus children (biological, adoptive, foster parent), have a career as an author and speaker, be a...

This IS Our Problem: Fixing Foster Care in America, My Part (And Yours)

Danielle Gletow | Posted 01.26.2017 | Impact
Danielle Gletow

Let's just all come together and loudly and proudly make a commitment that we will be one part of the very big village we know it takes to raise a healthy, happy child.

What Foster Parents Should Know About Emotional Investment

Jamie Nestrick | Posted 01.24.2017 | Parents
Jamie Nestrick

As foster parents, we have to walk a fine line between being 100% emotionally invested in the kids in our care, but not at all attached to any particu...

'The Bitter Season,' A Conversation With Tami Hoag

Mark Rubinstein | Posted 01.12.2017 | Books
Mark Rubinstein

Tami Hoag is an internationally bestselling author of more than thirty books. Over forty million copies are in print in thirty languages. She is known for crafting intricate and intense psychological thrillers probing the darkest corners of her characters' minds.

9 Things Foster Parents Need to Know Before Writing to the Judge

Dawn Teo | Posted 12.08.2016 | Parents
Dawn Teo

Many foster parents do not know that any "interested party" can communicate with the judge who oversees a dependency case.

The Church's Next Mission: Help Children in Foster Care

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 10.29.2016 | Religion
Dr. John DeGarmo

Today's churches have a tremendous mission opportunity before them; the mission to help children in foster care. Sadly, with roughly 500,000 children in foster care in the United States, the need is so very strong.

What I Wish Others Knew About How Foster Parents Grieve

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 10.01.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

Perhaps one of the most difficult aspects of being a foster parent is the moment when our child from foster care leaves our homes. As a foster parent, our home becomes a place where children placed in the foster care system come for a period of time, with the goal of being reunited with their family in the near future.

Protecting Your Partner, Protecting Your Marriage: Why Marriages Fail for Foster Parents

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 09.11.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

If we do not take care of ourselves, you and I as foster parents, we may very well become filled with anxiety, grow weary, and face burnout.

You are a Role Model -- Whether You Like it or Not

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 09.04.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

s. There are far too many poor role models for our kids to watch, and our kids to follow. You and I need to step it up. You and I need to change that. We need to take our role of being a good parent more seriously. We need to embrace the possibility that we might be the only positive role model other children might ever see.

What the Media Doesn't Tell You About Foster Parents Like Me

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 09.02.2016 | Parents
Dr. John DeGarmo

You might think that all foster parents are bad people. You might think that all foster parents are in it for the money. You might think that all foster parents don't care about the children in their homes. I am not that kind of foster parent.

Are You the Reason Our Children Are Failing in School?

Dr. John DeGarmo | Posted 08.24.2016 | Education
Dr. John DeGarmo

When I first began teaching, and before I was a foster parent, I knew very little about foster care, or about foster children. To be sure, what I thought I knew about children in foster care, and about the foster care system, was as far from the truth as possible.