Last week, I stepped into a parked, red Sienna mini-van with my friend Karen, to see if we were breaking up. Karen and I had been close friends for years, made all the cozier by the fact that our same aged-boys were also friends. That is, until a few months ago when, powered by their moody adolescence, the boys started fighting.
Interdependent relationships are the healthiest. Both parties contribute and receive. Both are available to share the joys of closeness and help shoulder the burdens that come with aging. They give and take. They are committed to mutual growth and positive adaptation along the uncharted journey through life.
Thanks to Facebook, the idea of 'de-friending' someone is not a foreign one. With a few simple clicks, you can wipe someone from your 'friends' list and never again be faced with a seemingly endless stream of birthday party photos from someone you're no longer close to. But in the real world it's a lot harder to 'de-friend' someone -- but it can be even more important to do so.