My heart goes out to the more than 400,000 children who have no permanent family to call their own this Thanksgiving. Because of discriminatory state laws, many who want to be parents and also happen to be LGBT cannot open up their homes to these kids.
While the end of Catholic Charities' adoption contract lawsuit is a victory for the equal application of the law and state services, the fight over civil rights and equality between LGBT Americans and powerful religious organizations is far from over.
Over and over again, the Catholic dioceses have made the conscious decision to abandon orphans and foster children rather than place them in loving, forever homes, based on nothing in their actual belief system.
A patchwork of discriminatory state laws and policies are excluding qualified LGBT parents from the pool of foster and adoptive parents. Those policies are in effect denying homes to the 115,000 children who are eligible for adoption each year.
Nobody would ever ask a biological mom how much her out-of-pocket expenses were for a week of neonatal ICU for her preemie. But let anyone know you adopted or used a gestational surrogate or egg donor, and people feel entitled to ask the price tag.
Even the LGBTQ community feels pressure to portray our families as "perfect," upper-class, mainstream, two-parent homes. It's time to be proud of the variety of familial structures that have existed forever and the new ones we are building.
I thought my kids were ready for school. They were armed with ready answers about why they had two dads and what adoption means. But I was wrong. They were not ready. Perhaps more accurately, I was not ready.
How could we deny children a loving home because of a parent's sexual orientation? I hope for a world where people like my former husband could be themselves and where good parenting is the only standard in deciding who can adopt.
All a state can accomplish if it imposes restrictions on adoption by lesbians and gay men is to decrease the odds that children in its custody will ever receive the benefits of living in permanent, successful families.
Every day LGBT people around the country are forced into hostile situations with religious organizations providing public services or worse turned away from getting these tax-payer funded services altogether.
The U.S. has had a lot of credit issues lately. But there's another "credit" debacle, one that is currently sitting on the steps of the U.S. Supreme Court: a state's refusal to give constitutionally-required "full faith and credit" to valid adoptions by gay parents.