So many girls "just want a gay best friend," and can you blame them? Why shouldn't all ladies want a man who will just listen and go shopping but isn't a total betch like their girlfriends are can be? The thing is that grouping all gay men into this "gay best friend" bundle counts as stereotyping.
In a recent Cosmopolitan article, "I Am Marrying My Gay Best Friend," we read the sweet, confusing and, for me, occasionally nauseating story of a girl falling in love with her gay best friend, whom she is now engaged to.
For me women were a safe way to explore the world, offering relationships uncomplicated by sex. They were my "in" to relationships, teaching me how to build trust and make real connections with the objects of my affection. There should be a better name for this kind of friendship.
Without sexual tension and social norms, the love between a gay man and a straight woman is not clouded by expectations or unwelcome erections. Something deeper, something magical, something liberating happens, and the rest is history.