On the third anniversary of New York's landmark law, it is clear that the arc of history has bent toward recognizing and legalizing loving, committed relationships between couples, regardless of their sex. But there is much more to be done. How can we best change the hearts and minds of those most violently opposed to our equal rights?
Sam and I needed to find out how to change our names. The tedious process had nothing at all to do with gay marriage. Had either one of us chosen to take the other's last name, the process would have been easy.
All 90 lbs. of my cousin Lisa is willing to travel across the country to New York, a state where her union to Therese, her partner of 15 years, will be acknowledged. But what about the people who don't have the means make their last dying wish -- a legally recognized wedding -- come true?
What a difference two years can make. On Sunday, July 24, 2011, I was one half of a same-sex couple making history in New York by legally tying the knot. Fast-forward 24 months: I'm not planning our anniversary getaway; I'm preparing for our divorce.
We had intended to be somewhat tongue-in-cheek about our marriage. In the hours leading up to the "I do," we kept trying the word "wife" on for size, and then guffawing at the absurdity of how it sounded. But before we knew it, romance had crept in.
They believe that their grandson has a right to his 70 years. But with each day that my husband and I are denied the immediate comprehension and understanding that the word "marriage" provides, it's unlikely that we'll be able to break their record.
On the night that Governor Andrew Cuomo signed our state's marriage equality bill into law, we immediately began planning our wedding -- why wait any longer?
Even if you could be certain that a particular candidate would be better for the economy, would you still vote for him if he threatened to put an end to your marriage, prevent you from receiving survivor benefits, and risk your losing your home?
This week I talked with producer Josh Rosenzweig and director Keren Aronoff about their new documentary, Pride & Groom, which commemorates the first anniversary of marriage equality in the state of New York and comprises four one-hour specials.
It's important for our community to hold accountable those who betray us, undermine us, and sell us out. And this year, if you're a gay New Yorker, there is one man who should be at the top of that list: State Senator Greg Ball.
The primary elections for state legislature turned into a referendum, of sorts, on same-sex marriage. I'm sorry to say that gay rights had a bad day.
July 24 marks the one year anniversary of my marriage. My gay marriage. It's crazy to think that it's already been a year since the historic day when my husband and I, and over 800 other LGBT couples said, "I do" here in the State of New York.
As we move into the wedding-planning stages, we're beginning to realize that it's not all sunshine and lollipops. We are both lucky to have parents who are accepting of our love, but there's something intangibly different about being gay and getting married.
Governor Cuomo was a champion of marriage equality, and his leadership on the issue advanced the rights of LGBT New Yorkers. But LGBT workers, who too often labor without a health and financial safety net, remain incredibly vulnerable in times of family need.
For every selfish person looking for "the next best thing," there is someone out there looking for that special someone to share their life with. Find ways to expand your friend base and find the people who are looking for long-term relationships and family.
My views on gay marriage are at odds with the consensus of my bishops. Speaking out on this issue has probably done irreparable damage to my career.