Ten years ago in May, 2004, Massachusetts had its first legal same-sex marriage. The ceremony was also the first of its kind to be held in the United States. My partner -- soon to be called my spouse -- and I were married a few months later.
What happened? How did "freedom" go from being all you can be to carrying an assault rifle into Chipotle? It's the idea that if somebody different from you is getting their rights then yours are being taken away.
I fear that marriage equality is a more palatable issue to discuss than the disproportionate impact of deadly violence for people of color, transgender women, transgender people of color and gay men. And it terrifies me that the idea of "ultimate victory" will leave some of our most vulnerable brothers and sisters behind.
The Supreme Court generally only hears a small handful of the petitions brought before it. But with so many major marriage rulings in the last year, they are virtually guaranteed to have one or more cases on their docket, with a ruling likely by June 2015.
The first step that all seriously committed couples, same sex or heterosexual, should do is find a competent financial planner to help them plot out a well thought out strategy.
Now we're turning full gay circle with gay men spreading the notion that marriage equality somehow means gay men automatically want marriage and probably children. If we don't have a husband we are not only unfortunate, but we must find one before we get too old.
How does preventing gay parents -- who are raising a family -- from marrying, "support families?" Do the means -- banning marriage -- lead to the goal of protecting families?
The backwards ideas of one person should not hold up the freedom to marry for an entire state.
"Nervous and excited about this. I think a lot of people forget that this isn't just political posturing and ideological debate -- it's personal, it's my life and the lives of many I love!"
The games being held in Ohio is a personal symbol of progress. Here is this huge event that takes years to plan that is proudly being hosted in the place where I grew up (a very different message from the one I received when the state changed the constitution to ban same-sex marriage).
I sit at my desk again now to answer the question, "Why would I pursue ordination after all the pain my Church has put me and my family through?"
Although there have been around three dozen federal court victories in the past year for marriage equality, there have been only three at the appellate level. Last week's Virginia win may have the most significant reverberations.
This week I was invited to join a media conference call immediately following the Fourth Circuit Court of Appeals' favorable ruling in Virginia's Bostic v. Schaefer marriage-equality case.
The war for same gender marriage has been won. I received the news today. I didn't read it in the newspaper, didn't see it on the news crawl at the bottom of the screen on CNN. I heard the announcement from a 17 year-old kid, out in the middle of the rural midwest.
The Bachelor Party. A time-honored tradition of male-bonding in which a group of friends wish "Bon Voyage" to their lucky - or unlucky - friend about to take the plunge into matrimony, by drinking more than they ever have.
Don't cringe like that. I hereby defy anyone, no matter your opinion on matrimony or public institutions, to hang out at SF's most iconic civic landmark for a single afternoon and not feel at least moderately blasted anew in the heart, in the blood, down to your skeptical and wary soul.