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A Few Words on Russell Tovey and Why If It Weren't for My Father, I Wouldn't Be a Faggot

Noah Michelson | Posted 03.03.2015 | Gay Voices
Noah Michelson

I was the very embodiment of everything our society worries could go wrong with a little boy, and in my small Midwestern town in the early '80s, I was every father's nightmare awoken and menacingly mincing my way through our local mall's food court.

The Gay Best Friend Must Die

Tré Easton | Posted 02.27.2015 | Gay Voices
Tré Easton

No dear, I don't know why the guy you're into won't text you back. (I still haven't figured that out for my own purposes.) And, for the love of all that is good and HOLY: I am not -- repeat, NOT -- an honorary girl.

Why the CW's 'The Flash' Is a Pretty Great Gay Show

J Nelson Aviance | Posted 02.13.2015 | Gay Voices
J Nelson Aviance

This is a CW show and not Pride & Prejudice. But it is nice to see a classic heroic journey; a 21st century superhero who isn't just a two-dimensional good guy, but struggles with the responsibilities that accompany having superpowers.

WATCH: How To Know When To Move On From Your Relationship

Matthew J. Dempsey | Posted 02.03.2015 | Gay Voices
Matthew J. Dempsey

2015-02-03-ScreenShot20150203at4.00.04AMsmall.jpgIn my latest video on relationships, I speak about how to effectively figure out when it's time to move on from a relationship and how to do it in the name of love. I describe how we can know where our stuff ends and our partner's begins, as well as the unique challenges that can come up for gay men when it comes to drawing the distinction.

The Gay Playground: Welcome Back to the Dollhouse

Jeremy Helligar | Posted 02.02.2015 | Gay Voices
Jeremy Helligar

Being gay, particularly in the big cities so many of us flocked to in order to be among more of our own kind, has become demanding and difficult in a way that has nothing to do with straight people and their brand of homophobia.

Once You're in a Relationship, How Do You Keep Love Alive? (VIDEO)

Matthew J. Dempsey | Posted 01.30.2015 | Gay Voices
Matthew J. Dempsey

2015-01-24-matthewdempseykeepinglovealivesmall.jpgRelationships can feel incredible at the start and quickly turn heated or bland at best. All we want is to just reclaim the love we once felt, but something that seems so simple can feel like moving mountains.

Finding Love: How You Can Get Ready (VIDEO)

Matthew J. Dempsey | Posted 01.20.2015 | Gay Voices
Matthew J. Dempsey

2015-01-17-matthewjdempseyfindinglovesmall.jpgStruggling to meet the right person and have a relationship that clicks for the long haul? You've dated enough to get a sense of what you're after, yet you keep coming up against the same relationship issues and beating your head against the wall.

Grindr in the Bible Belt

Nick Weaver | Posted 01.14.2015 | Gay Voices
Nick Weaver

Being known as a "gay-friendly" city in the bible belt is like being known for having a lot of lemonade in a place where everyone hates lemonade.

A Look at the Psychology of Why You're Attracted to the People You Want to Date

Matthew J. Dempsey | Posted 01.13.2015 | Gay Voices
Matthew J. Dempsey

2015-01-13-ScreenShot20150113at1.15.59AMsmall.jpgIn this video I break down some of the psychological nuts and bolts of what makes us attracted to the people we want to date. I also mention the unique challenges that gay men and queer people overall face, and how insight into what otherwise has been chalked up to "magic" can help our relationships in the long run.

Gay Men: What Is Your New Year's Contribution?

Josh Hersh | Posted 03.02.2015 | Gay Voices
Josh Hersh

January is often the month when many of us feverishly start to fulfill or come up with what we want to change in our own lives in the coming year. We become a nation of wide-eyed idealists, hell-bent on doing more, becoming more and repairing the so-called chinks in our armor.

Spike in Tiny Number of Gay Men on PrEP Abandoning Condoms Hardly Represents 'All' Gay Men

John-Manuel Andriote | Posted 02.11.2015 | Gay Voices
John-Manuel Andriote

A Dec. 8 blog post in the San Francisco Business Times has sparked another furor over gay men using the HIV drug Truvada to prevent infection with the deadly virus. "San Francisco men shed condoms in favor of Gilead's HIV prevention pill," alleges the title of SFBT reporter Ron Leuty's opinion piece.

Here's to Strong, Smart Women in Sensible Shoes

Christopher Murray | Posted 02.11.2015 | Gay Voices
Christopher Murray

While being an LGBT person is usually thought of as intrinsically focused on sex, sexuality and, now, marriage, for most of us I'd wager, central strengths and satisfactions have been found among those we call friends.

Now Is the Time to Scale Up PrEP in Los Angeles

Craig E. Thompson | Posted 01.31.2015 | Gay Voices
Craig E. Thompson

A revolution is underway in HIV prevention, and for the first time since the start of the AIDS epidemic in 1981, many in the HIV/AIDS community, including medical providers and health officials, say that an end to AIDS could be in sight.

Is Your Husband Gay? Don't Be So Sure

Joe Kort, Ph.D. | Posted 01.26.2015 | Divorce
Joe Kort, Ph.D.

Jennifer discovered from her husband Tom's emails that he was meeting Brad for sex. She came to see me, heartbroken, sure that her marriage to her "gay" husband was doomed. But when I examined Tom, I discovered he wasn't gay.

Bridging the AIDS Generation Gap

Victoria Noe | Posted 01.25.2015 | Gay Voices
Victoria Noe

"Don't trust anyone over 30!" That was the mantra of my youth. And though I still feel that way at times, I had to admit long ago that I'm on the other side of that number. The gap is still there; it's always there. And nowhere does that divide seem wider than in the AIDS community.

Gays Have As Many As 20,000 Sexual Partners In Their Lives, Pundit Claims

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 02.02.2015 | Gay Voices

Gays have "an average of 500-1,000," and as many as 20,000, sexual partners in their lifetime, according to a conservative pundit. Christopher Mon...

10 Things I Want My Younger Gay Self To Know

Posted 11.18.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com Dear Little Rickey (or any other young gay man just finding his way), I'm about to talk to you. Not in a bad w...

New Study Suggests Genetic Link For Male Homosexuality

AP | LINDSEY TANNER | Posted 11.17.2014 | Gay Voices

CHICAGO (AP) — A large study of gay brothers adds to evidence that genes influence men's chances of being homosexual, but the results aren't strong ...

Gay Man's Guide to the 2014 Elections

Chris Cormier | Posted 12.28.2014 | Gay Voices
Chris Cormier

Attention gay men: You need to vote on November 4. Here are a few campaign highlights as a Gay Man's Guide to the 2014 Elections, because pundits don't know how to explain how important this election is in "gay man's terms." Meet your ballot box divas.

4 Reasons Why EVERY Woman Needs A Gay Best Friend

Posted 10.28.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com Dear Tween, Teen, and Grown-Up Girls, you don’t know me but, I hope after this letter, you’ll feel like we’...

Why Dating Newly Out Gay Men Has Its Perks -- And Pitfalls

Posted 10.23.2014 | Gay Voices

By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com I'll be the first to admit, when I was coming out at age 38, after being married to a woman for 13 years and havi...

'Brotherhood of Bears' Offers Intimate Peek Into Underrepresented Gay Male Subculture (NSFW)

The Huffington Post | Priscilla Frank | Posted 10.21.2014 | Arts

In gay culture, "bears" are a subset of males who pride themselves on their large stature and rugged masculinity -- conveyed through traits like hairi...

WATCH: A Journey To 'The Valley Of (20-Something) Gays'

The Huffington Post | Curtis M. Wong | Posted 10.17.2014 | Gay Voices

In his latest video clip for HuffPost Gay Voices, writer-actor Justin Sayre sounds off on how "20-something" gay men compare to previous generations. ...

Gay American Men Shockingly Ignorant About HIV/AIDS, Kaiser Study Finds

John-Manuel Andriote | Posted 12.10.2014 | Gay Voices
John-Manuel Andriote

More distressing than the profound lack of knowledge about HIV/AIDS among the 431 adult men who participated in the survey is the fact that it reveals a startling failure -- even an absence -- of HIV education among gay and bisexual men, despite the fact that we account for the nation's highest number of those living with or at risk for HIV.

This Is What A Twink Looks Like

The Huffington Post | Noah Michelson | Posted 11.14.2014 | Gay Voices

Though queer people are gaining more and more visibility in mainstream media and society, that doesn't mean that the images we're presented with are a...